The Single Woman’s Dash of Sass: Single For a Reason

Quotes of the Day:

“Maybe some women aren’t meant to be tamed. Maybe they need to run free til they find someone just as wild to run with.” ~Sex & the City

“I’m single because I was born that way.” ~Mae West

“Be an independent thinker at all times, and ignore anyone who attempts to define you in a limiting way.” ~Sherry Argov

The Single Woman Says:

A few times a month, I’ll get the obligatory comment from someone on Twitter, usually a guy, usually someone who doesn’t follow me, and usually someone who thinks they’re being incredibly witty, saying something along the lines of: “The Single Woman is single for a reason. Ignore her!” There are so many things wrong with this comment, and this mindset. First of all – if their life is really so great, and so evolved, and so gleefully happy…why the heck are they taking time out of that fabulous life to heckle someone they don’t follow, don’t understand the heart of their message, and don’t even know?!? It’s baffling to me. Second of all…did they even take the time to consider what they were saying and WHY? “Single for a reason.” And this is so enlightening, HOW? I mean, everybody is what they are for a reason. You don’t just accidentally become single any more than you accidentally become married. But why is it that people seem to assume that unlike marriage, being single is NOT a choice, but a curse laid upon those of us who ARE single because we’re inherently flawed in some way? When did that become the prevailing mindset? I would argue that with the out-of-control divorce rates and miserable marriage epidemic…perhaps us single folks have figured out something the married ones haven’t: That it’s OKAY not to settle for marriage just because it’s the comfortable choice. Just because you’ve been dating someone for so long, you have to either break up or get married, so you chose to get married by default. Or just because it seems like it’s the thing to do once you hit age 28 and beyond. Maybe, just maybe, us single folks are single because we are brave enough to face the glorious unknown of the unaccompanied journey. Did you ever think of THAT, hecklers?

Since Mr. Wiseguy on Twitter (and Ms. Wisegirl, as I have had female hecklers, as well) seems to think that there is some deep, dark reason behind my singleness…I decided I might as well, here and now, solve the mystery of why I remain unmarried.

I am still single because…

• I haven’t met Mr. Right, and I deserve better than Mr. Wrong.
• I am fiercely independent and I won’t apologize for it.
• I have high standards, and so far no one has met them.
• I’m figuring out ME before I worry about WE.
• I love the freedom of being able to do what I want, when I want.
• I’d rather be someone who’s single than someone who settled.

These are just a few reasons why I am still single. I encourage you to make your own list, and to not apologize for it or justify it to anyone. We all have our own reasons for being single, most of which have very little to do with the reasons that society as a whole seems to want to thrust upon us. Remember: Love is not an area of life that you want to say that you “settled for.” Hold out for the best with no regrets. At the end of the day, there is nothing braver than someone who would rather walk alone than with someone who is unworthy of them.