The Single Woman’s Dash of Sass: Letting Go of Your “Mr. Big”

Quote of the Day:

“Sometimes you just KNOW it’s time to let go…so you do…and every day after is a little bit better than the day before.” ~The Single Woman

The Single Woman Says:

One of the primary stories I write about in my e-book, “The Single Woman’s Sassy Survival Guide: Letting Go & Moving On” is my relationship with my “Mr. Big,” the on-again, off-again love in my life who can’t ever QUITE decide which one he wants to be. And this is the story that so many of you have connected with the most. It seems all of you, no matter what continent you might live on, have your own version of “Mr. Big.”

Do you ever REALLY let go of a “Mr. Big”? Many of you have asked me.

Here’s what I know.

You hurt, you cry, you say goodbye…you move on, you grow strong, you remember how to fly.

And one day, you find yourself so far removed from what once WAS…you look back and realize that somewhere along the way, his memory LET GO OF YOU.

To love someone who can’t quite love you back is a powerful thing…but to love yourself MORE is an even more powerful thing. My Mr. Big hurt me, challenged me, refined me, disappointed me, strengthened me, infuriated me, motivated me, polished me, and inspired me. He taught me both how to let down my walls and be vulnerable and to set boundaries to protect my heart. He taught me to embrace my spontaneous side and follow my heart instead of my head, and to live for the moment a little bit more. More importantly, he taught me how to love myself too much to stay connected to someone who doesn’t love me enough.

There’s a quote by Ethel Person that says: “People should not judge failed love affairs as failed experiences but as part of the growth process. Something does not have to end well for it to have been one of the most valuable experiences of a lifetime.”

Yes, my relationship with my Mr. Big was, without a doubt, one of the most valuable experiences of my lifetime.

I was forever changed by the time I spent loving him.

But I was MORE changed by walking away from him.

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2 Responses to “ The Single Woman’s Dash of Sass: Letting Go of Your “Mr. Big” ”

  1. jolene.
    November 17, 2013

    Is it weird that I feellike you’re lucky to have gone through that? Lemme explain; given, he really hurt you, and that experience woke you up,and helped you walk away knowing you deserved better. But I can’t help thinking that this very same guy, gave you one of your best memories in your life, things you wouldn’t dare trade for anything in the world. He made you feel what love is…he made you happier (even if it was temporary) than you had ever been before. For someone like me, I’ve never felt anything like that. I don’t know what it’s like to love someone entirely and I guess it’s a feeling I hope to experience and hopefully make it last.

  2. Christy
    October 16, 2014

    My Mr. Big was a married man that I had been seeing for 6 1/2 years, that was soooooooo bad for me it was just unreal. We, mainly he, wud say done and then turn around and end back up at my door so many times. And, as Carrie in Sex in the City, I would let him back in EVERY time. I loved him very much, but the last straw was when he was caught with another woman and his wife left him and I had not heard one thing from him in the 6 months they were separated, then shows up at my door drunk one night out of the blue. Of course he was saying all the right things I thought I wanted to hear, but thank God I didn’t let him have his way because while he was there he informed me that he and his wife was working it out. He also told me he couldn’t stop thinking about me bs, bs, bs……but then the very next day tell me that if his wife does take him back and move back in, then he won’t be talking to any woman…sorry!! I was devastated, and still am a little bc it just happened list last weekend, but I realized then, he doesn’t, nor will he ever want me, I’m only his toy, his yo-yo that he pulls out when he wants to play. Not to mention to problems I have had with my self esteem and feeling that I am not worthy. That’s a HUGE struggle for me now. But, I hope to completely let go very, very soon. I will be letting the wound heal this time and will not be pulling the scab off any longer, just hope it doesn’t take very long. It is devastating, totally, but I know that it can be done because I have seen others survive. Thank you Mandy for your inspiration. Any other help you can offer would be so greatly appreciated as I want to move on, but I’m scared and not sure where to go from here. How do you love yourself, how do I do it when all I see when I look in my mirror is an ugly used up 53 year old single woman????

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