What Does Letting Go Look Like?
You take a deep breath, you say the words that you never imagined yourself saying, and you walk away. Battle-scarred and scared and unsure about the future as you may be, when you KNOW in your heart that this is not the person, not the job, not the opportunity that God intended for you, there is no other option but to walk away. To let go and move on. You cannot allow yourself to settle for anything that you know is wrong for you just because his name next to yours on the invitation will impress your friends or the nameplate on your office door looks nice. Leaving the comfortable shell of a secure situation, no matter WHAT it may be, is one of the scariest things a person can do; but think about it…what would happen to the butterfly if she refused to exit her cocoon? She would never grow, never change, never acquire her wings. And trust me on this one: it is far, far better to live a life of uncertain happiness than of certain misery. If you outgrew a dress, no matter how fabulous it once fit, you wouldn’t keep wearing it, would you? Then why are we so willing to stay stuck in a relationship, situation, job, or friendship once it has become clear that the other person or opportunity is not our perfect fit?
Letting go is not for the faint of heart. It’s the hardest thing most of us will ever have to learn how to do…but still, we must do it. Loving oneself demands nothing less.
But chin up, kid. You’re more resilient than you think you are. Sometimes it REALLY is as easy as opening your hand and releasing the person or thing you’ve been clinging so tightly to.
I personally like to PHYSICALLY release something to symbolically show that I’ve let go and moved on. My way of doing this is by taking myself down to the nearest party supply store and purchasing a bundle of bright, colorful, shiny helium balloons. On each balloon, I write down everything that’s holding me back…the What or the Who that I need to let go of.
Then, one by one, I release them into the air. And with each balloon that disappears into the distance, a little piece of ME starts to fall back into place.
It is an exercise that I HIGHLY recommend.
Perhaps when all is said and done, after all the tears have been cried, we’ve dried our eyes, the dust has settled on our goodbyes, and those bright, beautiful balloons are floating toward the sky…maybe all we can do is cling to what completes us (like our self worth, our dignity, and our best friends) and release what depletes us (like a guy who can’t see the crown jewel standing right in front of him). Sometimes in life we have to create our own closure. Sometimes we have to decide when enough is enough and walk away. I urge you to find a way to peacefully close the door on the past so you can walk away with your head held high and with no regrets. Because at the end of the day, sometimes it takes opening a door to get to a new place…
…and sometimes it takes closing one.
What are you struggling to let go of? What have you been successful in letting go of? Comment below!
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