Dash of Sass: If He Loves You, You’ll Know
I get so many ladies asking me the same question over and over: “How do I know if he loves me? He says he loves me but his actions are confusing.” And therein lies the answer to the question without me having to say a word.
“His words say one thing, but his actions say another.” He confuses you. He misleads you. He’s halfway out and halfway in. Ladies. We are smarter than this. If anything about the relationship leaves you confused and questioning and doubting and wondering and pacing and fretting and guessing and puzzling and stressing and worrying…as harsh as it might sound: He doesn’t love you. Or at least not the way you deserve to be loved. Love is never a question. It is always an ANSWER. True love is peaceful and joyful and clear and secure and life-giving and hopeful and honest and intentional. A man who truly loves you will never leave you with doubts because he won’t want to risk losing you. This doesn’t mean that you won’t ever have disagreements or obstacles to overcome or trials to get through…but it DOES mean that the question of whether or not he really loves you will never be one of them.
So, in closing: If his words are saying one thing and his actions another…if you are more confused than content…if he hasn’t made it 100% crystal clear that he loves you and values you and wants you in his life: Walk away now, before you get in any deeper. I’m not telling you to hold out for a perfect man; they don’t exist…I’m telling you to hold out for the one who is confident and sure and clear about his feelings for you. Because you deserve that. We all do.