A Beautifully Uncertain 31-Day Challenge: Week One

BUDay4Heeeeeellllllllloooooooo, 2016!

By now you’ve probably made out your long list of New Year’s resolutions…a list you might even be staring at in dread, wondering what you were thinking when you set the bar so high. And while those these great, big, giant goals are great…they might start to feel a little daunting after the glow of the shiny new year wears off. Because I’ve literally only kept like one resolution in my entire life (to write more, when I started this blog almost six years ago)…I decided to do things a little differently this year. THIS year, I want to invite you to ditch the resolutions and instead start a New Year’s REVOLUTION with me, in the form of achieving one very simple, attainable goal each day. Since so many of us are in seasons of waiting (waiting for love, waiting for marriage, waiting for babies, waiting for an answer to a prayer, waiting for a cure or a phone call or a diploma or even a miracle)…this challenge is designed to help you learn to wait with purpose and embrace the beautiful uncertainty of your unique journey. (Which, coincidentally,  just so happen to be BIG themes of my new book Beautiful Uncertainty.)

Whether you’re in a season of Singleness, Surrender, or Stepping Out on Faith…I hope these next 31 days serve as a launchpad for the next chapter of your life. Don’t feel like you have to stay in order if you need to switch up any of the exercises and do them on different days than I have listed here. I’ll be posting a week at a time so it doesn’t start to feel overwhelming. And I’ll be taking the challenge with you, so here’s to the next 31 days of growing, learning, letting go, and having fun! If you want to blog along with me as we go or post about your experiences taking the challenge on social media, please use the hashtag #BeautifulUncertainty so the rest of us can follow along with your progress!

And….we’re OFF!

Day 1: Quiet ReflectionBUDay1

Spend some time in solitude and
silence today, whether it’s the whole day or 15 minutes over a cup of coffee. Get still before God and reflect on where you’ve been, where you are, and where you hope to go. Try and repeat this step every day for the next 31 days.

Day 2: The Great Purge!

It’s hard to be happy, to have a sense of peace, or to hear from God when we’re surrounded by chaos. Go through your house today and clear the clutter. Things you no longer need, use, or wear: Toss ‘em! Things that no longer serve a purpose: To the left, to the left! Things that no longer make you happy: Let them go!

“Ridding your life of clutter and baggage will teach you this: It’s amazing what you can let go of and not even miss.”

Day 3: The Great Purge (continued)

Dig even deeper: closets, drawers, your makeup bag, your purse…leave no stone unturned! Shine the light of order and clarity on any area where clutter is king and disarray is ruling the day.

“Whether it’s negative people or clutter or stress or bad habits or mindsets, remove unnecessary and toxic things from your life.” 

Day 4: One Year. One Goal.

You’ve had a few days to settle into the new year…now set your gaze on your one big goal for 2016. You can have more than one, but try and focus in on what you want the year 2016 to be about for you. What do you hope to achieve? Where do you want to be this time next year? What is your biggest dream or hope or wish or prayer for this new year?

“Don’t be a slave to yesterday’s dreams. A new year calls for NEW vision, ambition, and goals!” 

BUDay5Day 5: Vision Board

Preorder Beautiful Uncertainty (from the homepage) and download the first two chapters free. In Chapter Two I lay out exactly how to create your own vision board. Once you’ve created your board, hang it somewhere where you can see it every day.

“You’ll be surprised at how being bold enough to lay out your dreams in black and white has a way of bringing them to life.” ~Beautiful Uncertainty 

Day 6: A Date With God

Plan something special for you and God to do today outside of your usual quiet time. Maybe it’s taking a walk, or sitting and having a cup of coffee and imagining Him there with you, or going for a drive in the country. Whatever it is, honor the date and your time together the same way you would if you were meeting a friend. (And while you’re at it, talk to Him like He’s a friend. Because He is.)

“That’s the God that we serve. A deeply personal God who wants to be a part of our most ordinary moments.” ~Beautiful Uncertainty

Day 7: Closure.BUDay7

Sometimes you have to close a few doors before you can open new ones.

Today I want you to narrate a conversation between you and someone in your life who you never had closure with (a friend, an ex, a family member, etc.) Write it down or actually sit a chair in front of you and pretend they’re there with you and you’re finally getting to say everything you need to say. Once that conversation is over, stand up and move on with the rest of your life.

I’d love to hear from YOU about your experiences each day with the challenge! Comment below with your feedback. And stay tuned for Week 2 coming soon!

92 Responses to “ A Beautifully Uncertain 31-Day Challenge: Week One ”

  1. April
    January 1, 2016

    I am ready

    • Carroll
      January 1, 2016

      Just what I needed …. Today … This minute ….
      Thank you

    • Zodwa
      January 4, 2016

      Just what I needed 🙂

    • Sue
      January 4, 2016

      I am so looking forward to this….. I have been single for 20 years because I refuse to just settle… Whatever God has planned for me… Thank you so much for doing this… I need it!

      Love you!

    • Kim
      January 12, 2016

      I’m a little late since I just came across your website this week. But I’m working hard to catch up! Love this!! Thank you. Happy new year ladies!!

    • Melanie
      January 13, 2016

      I want to start a new year and move on from my past and my ex.i do this with you all

  2. April Gracefully Bowins
    January 1, 2016

    I am going to join and do this 31 day journey.. Excited

    • Meagan
      January 9, 2016

      I so needed this… with going back and forth with an ex and a toxic relationship I’m ready to move on from. I’m ready for a new start in 2016 and leave it all behind

    • Shelly Chambers
      January 11, 2016

      I have been back and forth with a man that I know is no good for me. The relationship is unhealthy and toxic. I need to be strong enough to stay away from him indefinitely. I am looking forward to this fresh start.

  3. Alice
    January 1, 2016

    Thank you for being so faithful. I really need this. Does anyone out there ever deal with being in a relationship and then panic takes over? I’m trying to resolve this in my life

    • Kerri
      January 1, 2016

      Yes!! I want him to love me and have that comfy love laden relationship. Then when he starts to do this. Panic!!!

    • Mary H.
      January 4, 2016

      Yes! That is what I am going through now…driving me crazy! Makes me wonder what it is I really want.

    • Nathalie
      January 4, 2016

      Hi Kerri,
      I do the same thing. As soon as someone gets too close I panic and push the person away even though it’s the last thing I want. I’m starting a new relationship right now and my resolve is not to panic this time. I’m lucky he’s a great guy, so I talked to him about it. We agreed that he will tell me as soon as he feels I push him away and ask me what scares me in that exact moment instead of letting me do what I do best.
      So far I haven’t panicked yet, but the relationship is still very young so we will see. I hope the fact that I talked about it before it had a chance to happen will prevent it completely, but I guess this is wishful thinking.
      Maybe you have a different approach you could share?

    • Roxanne
      January 24, 2016

      Exactly what I needed to hear1 So tired of people thinking something is wrong with me because I’ve been single for 7 years! I refuse to settle and will wait for the right man to come into mine and my daughter’s life!

  4. Melissa
    January 1, 2016

    happy new year Mandy! ur the best

  5. Ebby
    January 1, 2016

    Wonderful! Happy New Year!

  6. Lsam
    January 1, 2016

    This is beautiful. I’ll follow it as well as I can. Just ended a 1 year relationship with the first man I’ve ever loved3 days ago. Need to get back on track in life. God bless you more and more.

    • Allen
      January 2, 2016

      Hey Lsam….sorry about that. I’m ending a 1 and a half year relationship that I thought was heading somewhere. Hurts bad but I’m staying hopefully and keeping busy staying positive. There’s a reason for everything and it will all come together one day. Hugs.

  7. Kerri
    January 1, 2016

    I’m excited about this. But..cleaning out and throwing away make up. That makes my heart hurt!

  8. I’m in. I’m excited to begin this challenge. Thank you!!!

  9. January 1, 2016

    Yayyy!!

    I am so in!

    • Allen
      January 2, 2016

      Hey Lsam….sorry about that. I’m ending a 1 and a half year relationship that I thought was heading somewhere. Hurts bad but I’m staying hopefully and keeping busy staying positive. There’s a reason for everything and it will all come together one day. Hugs.

    • Allen
      January 2, 2016

      Hi Kirabo….sounds like you’re Ugandan like me! All the best on the challenge! 🙂

  10. Angela Siciliano
    January 1, 2016

    I may have been the only person that spent nye alone & in bed before 12… And as painful as I “thought” this was, I realize today how much I’m learning from that!

    Fake relationships, fake friendships are so long gone and I couldn’t be Happier with myself in the changes I’ve decided over the past 5 years to make! So Yay me & Cheers to all my goals in 2016 I’m ready to accomplish! Getting out my jar!
    #gratitude
    #newcareergoals #education #travel #adventures #spirituality #yoga #splits #laughter #Loveforme ❤️

    • nedra
      January 3, 2016

      I did the same. Just sat in my bed and prayed and thought.

    • January 4, 2016

      I stayed in bed too. I am learning not to get ahead of myself with God so I thought I would rather just stay in bed and pray. And I’ve never been more grateful for where I am in life at the moment. I want more of course, but everything is beautiful and I appreciate it.

    • Pat
      January 11, 2016

      You are not the only one, i have spent more new years & even Christmas’s alone. I can’t say it is fun, but it is OK. Better alone than with someone who hurts us. I am probably older than most of you at 64, I can’t tell you it gets better because for me it has not. Just hang in there & love those who are in your life for good reasons. I am talking about friends as well as possible future mates. Sometimes girlfriends are the best gift’s God sends us.

    • Mary
      February 7, 2016

      I spend every NYE alone. This time it was completely my choice which makes all the difference. I created rituals, made swordfish for myself…. Etc. Wishing you light and lightness. Mary

  11. Donna Jones
    January 1, 2016

    I am so looking forward to buying it in the UK. Jesus is our hope!

  12. Lucy Calvillo
    January 1, 2016

    I love this, I actually was already planning to write down some goals today and get the rest of my life started. Last year I lost me, as much as I love myself and lnow my worth, I put me aside and took really good care of others.

  13. January 1, 2016

    This is awesome I always love doing these challenges. Also this is going to be great PR for the new book.

  14. Alesia
    January 1, 2016

    I’m in!! This is going to be.my BEST year ever!! 🙂

  15. January 1, 2016

    I am beyond excited for this. This is exactly what I need!!!!! You never disappoint ❤️ Here’s to the next 31!! xo

  16. mayra mendoza
    January 1, 2016

    My 1st day of challenge will b praying and staying off any social media and any communication … I need alone time this will be after 6 pm…Want and need to stay closer to my god.. have a chat with him about my life…

  17. Gina Scott
    January 1, 2016

    Thank you for this. I will try it because I have nothing to lose!

  18. Miky Ajy
    January 1, 2016

    I will keep you posted on how i am doing with this 31-day challenge. Excited to clean up yesterday’s clutters & baggage! Day 1 completely accomplished

  19. January 1, 2016

    Thank You Mandy. You always inspire me to keep rocking this singleness. After being married for 33 years and my Ex just up and left to be with someone else and he is still in love with me…. I’m moving on. I believe this is the life that my soul signed up for when I was born. Love is in many different forms for me, smiling at a stranger, friends, pets, family……I had come to realize that my broken heart was mostly broken from me ( don’t get me wrong…what my Ex did to me is not excusable) ….either I stayed in the relationship to long, I denied myself what was really going on, not being true to myself and when I realized that… I took the walls down I had around my heart and starting loving again even if it was just a little bit……then a little bit of hope and light came into my life. I walked around with a fake smile till I could really feel the smile was real….I had to fake it till I could make it for a while……I had to be accountable to myself for denying myself the life I was to live and that was a lot of self forgiveness and once I was accountable my life just took right off………I also knew I needed to be a example for my 27 yr old daughter that woman need to be accountable and stand up for themselves and live the life they were meant to! I was graciously given this life to live it and I’m not going to skip a beat! At the age of 51 I’m not afraid anymore, I’m not trying to find “the one”, I’m enjoying my new friends, I’m content. The other day my daughter said to me ” Mom you’ve said many times over the last months that you were OK and your going to be OK and mom I knew it but the blankness and sorrow on your face was still there and I was scared, but you say those words now and I can see that I’ve got my mom back and I see the genuine happiness and I’m so happy I got you back Mom” That was the best gift I’ve ever gotten in my whole life besides giving birth to my daughter! LOL You can all do this but you can’t do this without feeling the pain. And the pain does lift eventually but only if you truly feel it otherwise it goes into hiding and comes out at the most inconvenient times and you never really heal! Don’t delay your healing,,,feel every bit of it and move on with lots of Love. You may not always be joyous and happy but you are ALWAYS FREE………

    • Diane Hawthorne
      January 4, 2016

      Thank you… I needed to read this. I’m going to work this.

    • jacqueline
      January 4, 2016

      Im ready

    • Sherry
      January 4, 2016

      Clare, you are so on point. And, Mandy, thanks so much for what you are doing for all of us. You came here to do this. God bless.

    • Emily
      January 9, 2016

      Thank you for sharing Clare. My husband had just revealed his ongoing affair with his secretary, effectively ending our 30 year marriage. I’m devastated and trying to figure out what went wrong and where to go from here. I really don’t know how to move on without him.

  20. Cheree
    January 1, 2016

    I love this idea I cannot wait to get some peace in this waiting game. So excited!

  21. Chevy
    January 1, 2016

    I had a rough night last night and I feel so crabby today. I didn’t want to start a new year like this but my kids my boys have been really disobeying a lot on top of feeling alone with no significant other! I need this I’m so ready to look in the mirror and recognize the woman I see! Thanks for this!

  22. Kimberly
    January 1, 2016

    This is fabulous!! I did a lot of purging in November when I moved and it felt good. I need to let go of more. Looking forward to this. Here is to 2016 #mylifematters

  23. Lynne
    January 1, 2016

    I am in need of this. I look forward to each day. <3

  24. Denise M.
    January 1, 2016

    I am so excited to join this challenge!

  25. sonia
    January 1, 2016

    i am ready for this even when i have not done it before

  26. Danielle
    January 1, 2016

    I’m in! I am so excited about doing this challenge for the next 31 days. I actually got a head start today by getting rid of all of the clothes I don’t wear anymore at all. Thank you Mandy lets do it!

  27. Nicole
    January 1, 2016

    I’ve been following you from the start. Read everything that you have written and feel like we have been on the same journey just different location. I really feel God led me to you because just when I was falling apart…your words gave me hope. Thank you for sharing your life with us all.

  28. January 1, 2016

    I need this, especially day 7! Can’t wait…

  29. Shanette Crawford
    January 1, 2016

    I am doing this challenge every single day faithfully. I am waiting on all of above! I wont be using the hashtag, because I am staying off social media the next couple of months. I need to focus on God, myself, and my education.

  30. Dena
    January 2, 2016

    Mandy, I can’t express to you how much you inspire me, encourage me, lay the truth out even when it’s hard to hear and make me laugh..I am sure many of your readers feel this way, but I feel we are friends. Just about everything you have to say and the way you say it is exactly how I am feeling. It is hard playing the waiting game and wondering why the love of a man has not found me yet. But I really try to not dwell on it and appreciate things about being single..I thank God for the life he has given me and the things he has placed in my life including my fur baby cat Jack. I am excited for this new year and think it is going to be a great one…I pre-ordered Beautiful Uncertainty tonight and also ordered the other two books to have them, even though I read them already on my kindle. I look forward to this challenge and sharing with you how this year goes…Thank you for sharing your life with us.

  31. Camille Bughao
    January 2, 2016

    I’m in! Let’s so this 2016!

  32. Camille
    January 2, 2016

    I’m in! Let’s do this 2016!

    • Koko-eka
      January 26, 2016

      I’m with you Camille. Let’s do this 2016!!!!!

  33. Deb
    January 2, 2016

    I have a couple big goals for 2016! Graduating from community college earning my Associate’s degree, and starting a new university this fall as a junior to work, study, and earn my Bachelor’s degree! Working hard to one day obtain my dream career! I’m 48, divorced, living on my own and unemployed. I struggle but refuse to give up the fight! Thank you, Mandy, for your inspiration and encouragement to all us single gals! We’re strong, determined, and can accomplish anything we set our minds to! Settling for some worthless man is not in our vocabulary!! 🙂

    • Shanette Crawford
      January 2, 2016

      Good job graduating and getting into a university! =)

    • Gail
      January 16, 2016

      With you on that one Deb. Good luck! 🙂

  34. Chunga
    January 2, 2016

    Am getting on board and.looking forward to experience along there way.

  35. Dedra
    January 2, 2016

    Thank you! Happy New Year! I’m encouraged!

  36. Carolyn M.
    January 2, 2016

    So excited for this challenge to start up 2016. Day 2 and 3…this is going to be difficult, but so necessary. Thanks!!!

  37. January 2, 2016

    So happy I saw this. I feel so blesses to be a part of this challenge . am so determine ed to be the best of me. God bless you Ma.

  38. Karen
    January 2, 2016

    I just pre-ordered your book! I can’t wait to receive it!

  39. Renae
    January 2, 2016

    I’m one day late but I’m starting today! I’m ready

  40. Kym
    January 2, 2016

    I am very excited to read this book and hope it begins a new journey for me. My life for the past 6 years has been complete chaos! I need closure and definition in several areas … As well as to find myself once again.
    It’s the choices that make us ” who we are “… And we can always choose to do what’s right …
    I look forward to a better 2016, more fulfilling … Loving , growing , accepting and finding ME!

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  42. Eileen martin
    January 4, 2016

    Yay!! I’m super excited for this journey and for your new book 🙂 I pray that you would know how valuable you are and how many peoples lives you are touching with your story and your journey. Thank you for letting us all come along with you . And I pray that God would bring you the desires of your heart this year !! ❤️

    • Marilyn Porras
      January 4, 2016

      A nice msg Eileen and even though I just now read my email from Mandy, I am excited to start this Jan 4th. I’ll have to go back a few days but intend to catch up quickly. I am so excited to do the work and Mandy is a pure joy in my life, so grateful I found her on Facebook.

  43. Joyce
    January 4, 2016

    Thank you, thank you, thank you. I am growing and releasing things. I am learning to “fix me,” not others.

  44. SaraJane
    January 4, 2016

    Really excited. Nicely timed too.

  45. Tsitsi
    January 5, 2016

    I am so ready.. You, Mandy are a blessing to so many lives especially mine. I am ready to give our faithful God all devotion He deserves and to focus on fixing myself first. Thank you for the wonderful revelations. Grace be with you.

  46. avi
    January 5, 2016

    this would help me get even stronger for myself and having an achievement for myself, Ive been in a relationship for 6 years, and this 2016 it is very different from before I always lean with my partner and now standing on my own is a big step for me, through the help of this book and with God, i will and i can make it for my succes.

  47. Karena Tolford
    January 5, 2016

    Mandy,
    Thank you so much for your 31 day challenge. I am beyond excited for your new book, I just hope I have time to read it. I have had making a vision board on my to-do list for maybe a whole year now. I have not been able to connect the vision from my head to what it should be on paper. Everything that I have looked for, nothing fit. I’m so grateful you take the time to explain how to do a vision board and I know I will find a way to incorporate my goals onto my vision board. I love your encouragement and thank you for reading God’s word, being bold enough to wait for Him and speak His truth. May God bless you, always!

  48. Jessica
    January 6, 2016

    Right on Time Again!!! Not a second early nor late. Thanks Mandy!

  49. BlessedMom1305
    January 6, 2016

    Perfectly timed! Excited to start tomorrow. Praying God’s divine wisdom and discernment.

  50. Sheri Friend
    January 7, 2016

    I absolutely love Day 7 and I need to practice this!
    I do not do the whole New Year’s hype per say in January, I always do mine in November in my birthday month. I review my year, celebrate all the victories, let go of the defeat, and focus on the future.
    I have a ‘ vision book ‘ divided into sections from Personal Development, Health and Fitness, Business, my Blog, being a mom, Bucketlist, and tons, and tons of sticky notes.
    I cleaned three junk drawers and reorganized my kitchen. Next to the closet. Clear the clutter!!
    I am having more appreciation for my Morning Coffee time, when Ivread my devotional, and post my grateful post on Woman Working.
    I love your challenges. I so need the 31 Days of Surrender, it put me back on the map, Thank you!

  51. Nina
    January 7, 2016

    Thank You~love this 31-day challenge!

  52. Elaina
    January 7, 2016

    Definitely in need of something like this. A little revamping is necessary.

  53. Jenn
    January 7, 2016

    Closure is such a gratifying thing. The post in the 31 day challenge today about closure couldn’t have come at a better time. For a very long time, there has been a Mr. E in my life and I finally made the decision yesterday to find my own closure. I pressed unfrlend on social media, pressed delete in my phone contacts and various other places we are ‘connected’ and I removed the ‘poison’ from my life. It was the most rewarding feeling I have had in a very long while! I instantly felt a weight lifted off my shoulders and have no desire to ever look back. I was scared to do this though because it is permanent. There is no undoing this (yes, we can do the whole friend request again but why?) I have also since met someone else (we have been dating for 4 months) and while I was no longer pining for my Mr. E, I wasn’t sure that I could let go completely and ever love again. I did and can and that means that anyone can! The person in my life now has showed me what I deserve and what a real man is. Fact of the matter is,the hardest part for me of letting go was that I never received any sort of closure and that’s why I was holding on. Communication would just stop and it would only restart when it was convenient for him and like a fool, I always let him back into my life. Not this time. I get the last laugh. I pressed delete before he did and it’s not about the last laugh, it’s about letting go and moving on. My advice to anyone who reads this is to seek closure. It may not be the closure you want or the words direct from him or at this very moment. Maybe it will come from yourself, but find it! You’d be amazed at what it can do. I wish you all the best and thanks for posting these blogs and guides Mandy.

  54. Lisa
    January 8, 2016

    I just started the challenge! I love this. Day one is awesome. Reflecting with God. How awesome!

  55. Michelle
    January 9, 2016

    Mandy,
    I cannot begin to express how deeply your books, your quotes, your blog has helped me over the past two years after I lost my husband from a sudden heart attack. Today would have been our 23 year wedding anniversary. Being single is a term I could NEVER understand since I have been with my husband since I was 15 years old. You give women all around the world a positive definition of that term, inspiration to want to be better, motivation to try, and words of encouragement that help fight our way through when we are unable to find it ourselves. Your words speak of courage, self love, independence, and wisdom, all of the traits I have seemed to have lost when I lost my husband. I lost myself. Then shortly after, my niece, who I practically raised passed away in a car accident, then both my parents this past year. I have survived tremendous lost in such a short time and many pieces of myself where lost with each one of their passing. But you, you give these amazing words of encouragement and faith, that give me that just enough motivation to make it through the day! I was beyond excited when I found out what the topic of your new book was, timing couldn’t be more perfect! I have decided this year was going to be the year to be the victor, not the victim. To endulge in self discovery, self love, and courage…lots of courage! So again, your timing is perfect! I am so excited to begin the 31 day challenge, and am eagerly anticipating my book, your book, Beautiful Uncertainty, to arrive in my mailbox! God Bless you for all that you do, for all that you are! <3

  56. Wondering
    January 9, 2016

    Mandy, I just wanted to say (and probably speak for many) that what you are doing is absolutely awesome. There are so few (or at least in my experience and travels) “voices” out there to “represent” single folks, and I think that is part of the reason there can often be discouragement and a sense of being “on the periphery” amongst us single people (and I have to say probably particularly us “over 20/30-something” single folk). Thank you, thank you, thank you…and I pray that God continues to bless you with His Presence, as you have been blessing us with your own stories, candidness, and insights. God bless you! Terri

  57. Robyn
    January 10, 2016

    Sorry I’m a bit late starting this … but it is SO what I need right now. Thank you for sharing this! I am looking forward to what my 2016 holds in store for me and I am ready for this adventure 🙂

  58. Anna
    January 10, 2016

    I have decided to finally cut off/end a toxic on and off, two year relationship after a tough few weeks of second guessing and hoping that something would/will change. Finding this challenge is just what I need to find myself again…spend some time alone in reflection so when the time comes to let the right person into my life, I am able. Gratitude, trust in the greater plan, faith, grace and hope…here we go!

  59. Gail
    January 16, 2016

    I’m in exactly the same place you are Anna. A toxic relationship, second guessing, being let down, making excuses for him then forgiving time and time again sound all too familiar. I don’t know what happened to me I used to be a strong woman who didn’t take any crap but gradually, without realising what was going on I got worn down hoping he would change. Well a bit of that strong woman is still hanging around because she’s decided enough is enough and it has to be about me now.–Gonna be hard but I know we’ll get there. Good luck 🙂

    PS Actually I do know what happened. I didn’t want to be on my own – that thought is scary – but also quite exciting..

    • Cathy
      January 18, 2016

      Gail, I am in the exact same position. Today is my day one after a weekend of sending humiliating texts begging for interaction…..

      wish me luck

  60. January 17, 2016

    Hey
    I have decided to let go of negative things n my life. Some long term friendships that run their course or turned toxic. I have the sit down with God and some people. He showed me how this people really were. One guy i fall in with love that i cant never be with. It was hard. I had some closure with alot dark things in my past that i had to admit to my self, deal with, and get over it. I really like the alone. During my date with God. I had remember something i had long time ago. IF GOD ALLOWED MY SOULMATE TO OBSERVE ME FOR 5 MINUTES WHO HE LIKE WHAT SAW? WOULD HE LIKE THE WAY IM LIVING MY LIFE? NO HE WOULDNT. I decided not only to the negative things in my life, heart and soul. I would start cleans out my apt and my room at parents. They are a mess like my life. I want a clean fresh start. I cant to for the future.

  61. Cathy
    January 18, 2016

    I am in the exact same place as alot of you. Toxic relationship ended several times; I am still pathetically clinging on to it and to him. I am going to start this; even tho I am really late to the game. Better late than never.

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  63. RS
    January 21, 2016

    I suggest a website called PsychopathFree. The pain and angst described by many here (including Mandy), is not necessarily the result of a regular break up or loneliness after a break up. I believe that many of you are dealing with the aftermath of a relationship with someone with narcissistic personality disorder or psychopathy. Breakups are hard, but interactions/relationships with disordered people are particularly toxic and SOUL destroying. Please check out this site. If you can relate to what the women are saying, you are likely involved with a crazy making disordered person.

  64. leaso
    January 25, 2016

    i failed :'(

  65. Koko-eka
    January 26, 2016

    Mandy, you make me know i belong even in God’s kingdom, single women are accepted. Thanks

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