A Personal Note From Me to You
Dear readers of mine:
I’ve received a couple of less-than-kind comments on my blog and a couple of my social media platforms lately, so I knew it was time to address some things.
Now, this is going to come as a big shock to some people, it seems…BUT…I am an actual person, Mandy Hale. A real single woman. Not a random nameless faceless bot that spits out endless inspirational posts and tweets and blogs. I am also a one-woman operation. Everything is me. I do it all. The writing, the editing, the website moderating, the marketing, the social media posting, etc. etc. It’s all me. I don’t have an agent. I don’t have a publicist. I don’t have an assistant. And as of March, I don’t even have a publisher, because after my brother-in-law’s near fatal car accident that cost him his right leg, I walked away from my publishing company of almost four years. Nothing puts life in perspective quite like almost losing someone you love…and I decided life was far too short to stay with a company that I felt didn’t honor me or give me a safe, supportive space to create.
All that said: I am a one-woman show who also has to eat and pay bills. For almost seven years of my life, I have devoted myself to inspiring and encouraging single women through my blog and social media platforms. For about four of those seven years, I did it for nothing more than the joy of bringing light to the lives of women who needed it most. I never asked for one thing in return.
I am a full-time, self-employed writer. A writer who is literally living on a wing and a prayer that this writing thing that I love to do so much and that impacts literally millions of women each day will work out. I can’t imagine NOT being able to do what I do. I can’t imagine the lives that would be negatively impacted if they didn’t have the daily reminders of hope and encouragement and positivity that God allows me to bring to them through the power of social media. Some people have no other light in their life all day long beyond what they see on their social media feeds. Can you even imagine that?
Over the past few months, I have partnered with two companies that I believe in very much – Singles Swag
– to promote their causes. And yes, I get paid for that. Modestly, but I do get paid. And I won’t apologize for that. Because these are products that I actually use and love and am sincerely excited to make more people aware of. I am approached all day, every day, by brands and products that want me to promote them, but because they don’t align with me or my heart or my message, I turn them down. But I truly, sincerely believe in the companies I have partnered with and I don’t feel one ounce of shame for helping raise awareness about these companies among my readership. Why? Because I can’t live and eat and pay bills and continue to inspire women across the world each day without some sort of income. As wonderful as it may sound, I can’t do what I do for free. I’m sure you wouldn’t go to your job every day and just ask for smiles and gratitude as compensation, because you wouldn’t be able to live or survive on just smiles and gratitude. So why, then, should I?
It makes me really sad that a few of my readers over the past few days have sent me rude comments saying all sorts of things about my character and my integrity because I advertise products across my platforms. And to even indicate that they are “done” reading my blog because I advertise products across my platforms. In my opinion, if you are someone who believes that writers and bloggers are here only to cater to you, 24/7, without ever utilizing the very platforms they built in order to put food on their own table…then you’re probably not the kind of person I want following me anyway. I very sparingly take on promotional campaigns because I want to keep the blog as pure as I can for all of you. For example, you will never come to my website and be besieged by pop-up ads or anything of the sort, because that annoys me when I visit another site and I vowed to never do it to my own. So it’s literally mind-boggling to me, and honestly a little offensive, that a single woman and entrepreneur can’t exercise the gifts and talents she’s been given, and the platforms she build with her own blood, sweat, and tears (literally!) to make a living for herself without being criticized for it. I guess regardless of how “girl power” my message is, I still haven’t managed to convince some women that it’s okay to go out there and hustle for the life and the future that you want for yourself.
All that said: I love you all. So much. From the bottom of my heart. That will never change. The blog might change, as I change and grow and evolve…but my heart for single women never will. But a girl’s gotta eat. So I will continue to promote my books to you, because they are my life’s greatest achievements and I truly believe they have life-changing principles in them. And I will continue to (sparingly) promote other products that I believe in to you, and I won’t apologize for it. I hope that the content I bring you every day of my life and the words of encouragement I’ve poured out over the past seven years of my life will be enough to keep you coming around. Cause I’m working every day to continue to find new ways to inspire you and connect with you and add a little more laughter and magic to your life, and there’s still a lot of good stuff ahead 🙂