Not Gonna Happen
WHAT? You’re probably asking. Mandy has definitely lost it this time. What even is a “fortune-telling bath bomb”?
We’ll get to that in a minute. But first: Here’s the thing. Truth can come to us at any time, any place, in any form or fashion, if we have eyes to see and ears to hear. Truth can arrive on a regular Tuesday morning. It can arrive in the mail. It can arrive via a phone call. It can arrive when we’re not even looking for it at all. If you’re open, and you’re willing to recognize it when it arrives…it can find you anywhere.
Yes, even through a fortune-telling bath bomb.
Now to explain that part. The bath bomb arrived as an item in my Singles Swag box a couple of months ago. I should say that I don’t put much stock in fortune-telling anything. I read horoscopes occasionally for fun but it’s not something I put a lot of weight in. But the day that box arrived, I was at something of a crossroads with a relationship in my life and searching for clarity.
And sometimes clarity comes to us in funny ways.
“Will _____ and I ever really date?” I asked, then tossed the bath bomb into the water.
And as I read the three words, I realized I had known the answer in my gut long before a fortune-telling bath bomb gave it to me.
NOT GONNA HAPPEN.
When you have a text-only relationship with a guy…it’s probably not gonna happen.
When a guy is completely and admittedly emotionally unavailable…it’s probably not gonna happen.
When it’s been years and you’re still just “hanging out” instead of dating…it’s probably not gonna happen.
When you feel like you need to seek the wisdom of a fortune-telling bath bomb about the future of your relationship…it’s probably not gonna happen.
You see, I had known all along it was probably never gonna happen. It just took having it literally spelled out in front of me for me to accept it.
Our gut always knows. Our heart always knows. Our intuition always knows. It’s up to us whether we choose to accept it or not.
After my moment of reckoning with the bath bomb, I still held out hope that perhaps I was wrong. Perhaps I was misreading the signs. I was “reading tea leaves,” as one of my friends says.
But no. I was right. Shortly after that, the relationship ended before it ever really began.
We know. We always know.
You know right now if that almost-relationship you’re in is going to happen or not happen. You already know. You might be banging your head against walls in frustration or praying for a sign or asking every friend you have for advice…but the truth is, you already know. If you’re willing to see and admit the truth, you’ll find that you already know it. With or without a fortune-telling bath bomb.
Love isn’t always black and white, as I once thought. Neither are relationships and dating, for that matter.
But it’s also not a constant struggle. A constant question. Constant angst and turmoil and confusion.
The answer is always a lot more clear than we think, or are willing to admit to ourselves.
Sometimes we need it spelled out for us.
Sometimes something as seemingly insignificant as a fortune-telling bath bomb from a Singles Swag box can help us see the truth that’s been staring us right in the face the entire time.
What is meant to be ours will eventually be ours and what is not, no matter how hard we try…will never be.
There’s a peace in accepting that truth.
(By the way…here’s December’s Singles Swag box. No fortune-telling bath bomb this month, but lots of other awesome goodies! Subscribe now at SinglesSwag.com and make sure you use coupon code MANDY for 10% off! Free shipping anywhere in the U.S.)