Dash of Sass: ENOUGH

“Why wasn’t I enough for him?”
I can’t tell you how many times that was the cry of my heart…all within the bounds of one relationship…because I chose for years to stand there waiting for someone to look at me and actually SEE me. To love me. To treat me like I was ENOUGH. When really, he was the one who was lacking. Lacking in depth. Lacking in character. Lacking in honesty. Lacking in integrity. I » Read More

Dash of Sass: Whatever You’re Facing Today, Tomorrow Is On Its Way

I have a dear friend going through a big heartbreak right now…and this morning she texted me “How is it possible for this to still hurt me so horribly?” And I texted her back: “It hurts because you’re human, and because you were vulnerable with someone who didn’t value your heart and THAT’S NOT ON YOU…” And you know what? It also hurts because she’s stuck in the Today of it all. The newness of » Read More

Dash of Sass: Palms Up. Palms Open.

A reader reminded me of this quote from my book “I’ve Never Been to Vegas But My Luggage Has” over the weekend and I wanted to share it with you guys along with a revelation I received a couple of days ago. During my prayer time the other day, God reminded me that the posture for releasing something and the posture for receiving something else is identical: Palms up. Palms open. Not clenched tightly together » Read More

Dash of Sass: If He Loves You, You’ll Know

I get so many ladies asking me the same question over and over: “How do I know if he loves me? He says he loves me but his actions are confusing.” And therein lies the answer to the question without me having to say a word.
“His words say one thing, but his actions say another.” He confuses you. He misleads you. He’s halfway out and halfway in. Ladies. We are smarter than this. If » Read More

Dash of Sass: Real Love is Never Halfway There

Dealing with “in-between” people…it’s exhausting, isn’t it? They never let you know where you stand with them…they give you just enough of their attention and time to keep you on their hook but yet they still swim free…they disappear for weeks and even months on end but manage to come around just frequently enough to keep you from moving on. For them, it’s a win-win…no real commitment required, all the perks of a significant other » Read More

Dash of Sass: Let’s Stop Trying to Be Right & Just Be Real

I’ve been in a bit of a creative slump lately that has definitely affected my writing and tweeting and posting. I’m not sure why, but every summer around this time, I hit a creative wall. And because I don’t really have anything brilliant to say, I stop saying anything at all. When I saw this beautifully perfect quote by Brian Andreas, it occurred to me that perhaps I don’t have to say anything brilliant. Or » Read More

Dash of Sass: Hindsight is 20/20

You didn’t know. You trusted, and you loved, and you assumed the best of someone…and that is never wrong. You took a shot on love or on friendship…and that is always brave.You believed that the other person would treat you with the same dignity and respect with which you treated them…and that is noble.You didn’t know. You didn’t know they weren’t capable of loving you back. You didn’t know they weren’t trustworthy. You didn’t know they didn’t » Read More

Dash of Sass: Stop Forcing. Stop Chasing. (Seriously, STOP.)

There’s something I’m super frustrated with lately, observing myself and my friends and reading emails from ladies who write to me for advice…and that is this idea that women seem to have that we need to work our toenails off to make a relationship happen with a man. That we have to “put ourselves in the way” of these men, otherwise they won’t remember us. That WE have to go out of our way to » Read More

Dash of Sass: God’s Plan Vs. Our Plan

How many times do we get angry and upset with God, thinking He has forgotten us or is ignoring us or isn’t answering our prayer? Only to later look back and see how detrimental it would have been to us had He brought us the thing we were begging for and thought we couldn’t live without? We’re stuck down here in the details of everyday life, but God sees all. He sees the big picture. » Read More

Dash of Sass: Be Who You Really Are

Today I hereby give you permission to feel exactly how you are feeling without apologizing or stifling or excusing or resisting. I give you permission to drop the politeness and the masks and the sugar-coating and just be REAL. To stop wasting time justifying and rationalizing and analyzing and just say what you mean and mean what you say. To accept yourself in all your brave, broken beauty and to stop trying to pick up » Read More

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