Dash of Sass: Real Love is Never Halfway There

Dealing with “in-between” people…it’s exhausting, isn’t it? They never let you know where you stand with them…they give you just enough of their attention and time to keep you on their hook but yet they still swim free…they disappear for weeks and even months on end but manage to come around just frequently enough to keep you from moving on. For them, it’s a win-win…no real commitment required, all the perks of a significant other » Read More

You Are Not Invisible

Sometimes I feel particularly invisible to the opposite sex. Kind of like Harry Potter tossed his magical Cloak of Invisibility around me when I wasn’t looking and then darted off to go do whatever it is Harry Potter is doing these days. (Of course, old Harry is a male so he probably didn’t see me in the first place!) But seriously…as much as the idea of having a super power appeals to me, I could » Read More

Why I’m Still Single: The Ugly Truth

Why do I SAY I’m still single?

A pithy, “Because I’m too fabulous to settle.”

A polite, “Because I’m waiting for God to bring me the right man.”

A peppy, “Because there are still things I’m meant to accomplish as a single woman!”

But the truth is…sometimes I think the reason I’m still single is because I’m inherently flawed. Bad. Ugly. Undeserving. Screwed up. Unlovable.

THIS is the underbelly of singleness. The dark side. Where the rubber meets the road. » Read More

Dash of Sass: Let’s Stop Trying to Be Right & Just Be Real

I’ve been in a bit of a creative slump lately that has definitely affected my writing and tweeting and posting. I’m not sure why, but every summer around this time, I hit a creative wall. And because I don’t really have anything brilliant to say, I stop saying anything at all. When I saw this beautifully perfect quote by Brian Andreas, it occurred to me that perhaps I don’t have to say anything brilliant. Or » Read More

Dash of Sass: Stop Forcing. Stop Chasing. (Seriously, STOP.)

There’s something I’m super frustrated with lately, observing myself and my friends and reading emails from ladies who write to me for advice…and that is this idea that women seem to have that we need to work our toenails off to make a relationship happen with a man. That we have to “put ourselves in the way” of these men, otherwise they won’t remember us. That WE have to go out of our way to » Read More

Things I’m No Longer Apologizing For

Last weekend I posted something on my personal Twitter page that a lot of people disagreed with. I got hate tweets for two days about it, which was baffling to me, because when did having a differing opinion become so offensive to people? Are we all supposed to be cookie cutter versions of one another, never having or voicing a contrasting idea or thought or viewpoint or opinion? How boring would life be if that » Read More

The Modern Dating Game: Three Ways It Makes Me Crazed

I seem to keep running into the same problems in my dating life. And so do my friends. Literally three or four different amazing, beautiful, successful single women in my life keep hitting the same wall as me…so I KNOW there must be something to it. I mean, as much as I adore Greg Behrendt (and here’s the proof), they can’t all possibly be “just not that into us”…right?!?

What am I talking about?

COMMUNICATION.

I don’t know » Read More

Dash of Sass: I Don’t Chase People Anymore

For a long time in my 20’s and even into my 30’s, I was constantly chasing after people and friendships and guys and things I thought were going to make me happy. A beautiful thing happened when I stopped the pursuit of happiness: I realized it had been here all along. Now I just stay in one place and trust that the people and opportunities meant to be in my life will flow to me » Read More

I Told You I Was Strong & Independent. I Lied.

It hit me yesterday that I talk regularly about how strong and independent I am as a single (and fabulous) woman…

…and yet, it’s all a big, gigantic LIE.

The message in church yesterday was about singleness and how our contentment can only be found in God, not in the safety of marriage or the independence of single life (Thank you, Pastor Trevor Atwood, for BRINGING IT). And as I sat there and listened and let the » Read More

Day 16: If You Planted a Time Capsule Right Now To Be Opened in 20 Years, What Would Be In It?

If I planted a time capsule right now that represented my life…what would be in it? Hmmm. I think I could probably fill it to the brim with books and call it a day. But that wouldn’t be very diverse, now would it?

There are the obvious things. My two books…words that will hopefully stand the test of time long after I’m gone. Writing is immortality, I suppose. It’s kind of nice knowing that 20 years » Read More

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