Dash of Sass: Stop Forcing. Stop Chasing. (Seriously, STOP.)

There’s something I’m super frustrated with lately, observing myself and my friends and reading emails from ladies who write to me for advice…and that is this idea that women seem to have that we need to work our toenails off to make a relationship happen with a man. That we have to “put ourselves in the way” of these men, otherwise they won’t remember us. That WE have to go out of our way to » Read More

Things I’m No Longer Apologizing For

Last weekend I posted something on my personal Twitter page that a lot of people disagreed with. I got hate tweets for two days about it, which was baffling to me, because when did having a differing opinion become so offensive to people? Are we all supposed to be cookie cutter versions of one another, never having or voicing a contrasting idea or thought or viewpoint or opinion? How boring would life be if that » Read More

Make Friends with Your Singleness: A Lesson in Grace from the GE Ideas Monster

I’ve been haunted by the General Electric “Ideas Monster” since I first saw him (her?) in a commercial a few months ago. If you haven’t seen this commercial and you have no idea what I’m talking about, click here. (You really need to see it before you read the rest of the blog.)

The commercial has stuck with me so powerfully, I can’t seem to shake it. Today I started wondering why. So I watched the » Read More

Dash of Sass: I Don’t Chase People Anymore

For a long time in my 20’s and even into my 30’s, I was constantly chasing after people and friendships and guys and things I thought were going to make me happy. A beautiful thing happened when I stopped the pursuit of happiness: I realized it had been here all along. Now I just stay in one place and trust that the people and opportunities meant to be in my life will flow to me » Read More

I Told You I Was Strong & Independent. I Lied.

It hit me yesterday that I talk regularly about how strong and independent I am as a single (and fabulous) woman…

…and yet, it’s all a big, gigantic LIE.

The message in church yesterday was about singleness and how our contentment can only be found in God, not in the safety of marriage or the independence of single life (Thank you, Pastor Trevor Atwood, for BRINGING IT). And as I sat there and listened and let the » Read More

Dash of Sass: Girl, You’re Amazing…Just the Way You Are

Makeup and spanx and hair extensions and photo shop and airbrushing and false eyelashes and plastic surgery and Botox and on and on and on. There are so many ways to cover and conceal and trim and blur and enhance who we are. And don’t get me wrong. I’m a fan of a few of these things. (Especially hair extensions. Why does my hair grow a half an inch every 3 years?!? Okay I’m exaggerating » Read More

A Lady Never…

In honor of the release of my brand new book, I’ve Never Been to Vegas but My Luggage Has, I thought I’d put together a list of the Top Ten Things That a Lady Never Does, inspired by the book. So read, share, enjoy…and feel free to add your own thoughts about what a lady does (or doesn’t do) in the comments below! And also grab your copy of the book now anywhere books are » Read More

We Are All…The Single Woman

The following is an excerpt from my book The Single Woman: Life, Love, & a Dash of Sass:

Instead of “single & fabulous,” the life of a single woman in her late 20’s and beyond is all too often labeled “single & desperate.” Instead of viewed as a choice, “single” seems to denote a lack of options. Everyone seems to want to meddle in the life of the woman who refuses to settle; setting her up on » Read More

Today I Cut My Hair & Changed My Life

A woman who cuts her hair is about to change her life. ~Coco Chanel

I cut my hair today. And it felt good.

Actually, it felt better than good. It felt like freedom.

You see, for a really long time, I’ve let my hair and my thoughts about my hair and my feelings about my hair and my insecurities about my hair sort of control me. Over the course of my 34 years, I’ve permed it and straightened » Read More

Dash of Sass: Are Your Facebook Posts Actually Driving Love Away?

Quotes of the Day: Desperation and impatience twist our thinking and pull us into error and deception every time. ~Michelle McKinney Hammond There is a very fine line between loving life and being greedy for it. ~Maya Angelou While this may look loving, when we struggle with an idol of dependence, we’re in fact not loving people as much as we’re using them to fulfill our » Read More

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