Why We Cling to People Who Don’t Love Us

Why did I cling to a guy who didn’t love me for almost eight years?

I’ve been asking myself that question a lot lately, as I see friends of mine trapped in similarly hopeless situations. Situations that I can see so clearly as someone who has been there and is now standing on the outside, looking in. They can’t see or think clearly because they’re in the thick of it. Too close to it. I guess » Read More

The Hardness of Life. The Goodness of God.

It’s impossible to REALLY know God if you’ve only known good.

This is the phrase that keeps running through my head these days. Hard days, for more reasons than one. I’ve found myself increasingly attune lately to the hardness of life. My dear friend, probably my best friend, Caroline, has lost two friends in six months. One to disease, another to addiction. Another friend of mine is facing a huge life challenge and spiritual battle that » Read More

To the Man I Thought Was ‘The One’

To the Man I Thought Was “The One,” or my “Almost, Not Quite Love”:

This is the last time I will ever write about you. I’ve given you pages, chapters, BOOKS of my life…but now it’s time for me to write a new story now. One without you in it.

I’m ready to do that now. But to start a new chapter, you must first close the old one.

For years I asked God to bring closure to » Read More

If An Ex Pokes You on Facebook and You Don’t Respond, Did Anything Actually Happen?

The following is an excerpt from my new book Beautiful Uncertainty, in stores now.

Those of you who are regular readers of my blog have introduced to my long-suffering, on-again, off-again ex, Mr. E. And I’m sure you likely have your own long-suffering, on-again, off-again ex, like Carrie’s “Mr. Big” in Sex & the City. This is what happened when mine reappeared in my life again after two years of silence.

Even though I hesitate to give him » Read More

A Beautifully Uncertain 31-Day Challenge: Week Three

Who’s ready to tackle week three?!

To recap: I decided to do things a little differently in 2016 by I’m inviting you to ditch the New Year’s resolutions and instead spend this first month of the year achieving one very simple, attainable goal each day. Since so many of us are in seasons of waiting (waiting for love, waiting for marriage, waiting for babies, waiting for an answer to a prayer, waiting for a cure or a phone » Read More

A Beautifully Uncertain 31-Day Challenge: Week Two

I hope everyone enjoyed Week One of the challenge! I have to say…I think I’m even more excited about Week Two!!!!

To recap: I decided to do things a little differently in 2016. This year, I’m inviting you to ditch the resolutions and instead start a New Year’s REVOLUTION with me, in the form of achieving one very simple, attainable goal each day. Since so many of us are in seasons of waiting (waiting for love, waiting for » Read More

A Beautifully Uncertain 31-Day Challenge: Week One

Heeeeeellllllllloooooooo, 2016!

By now you’ve probably made out your long list of New Year’s resolutions…a list you might even be staring at in dread, wondering what you were thinking when you set the bar so high. And while those these great, big, giant goals are great…they might start to feel a little daunting after the glow of the shiny new year wears off. Because I’ve literally only kept like one resolution in my entire life (to » Read More

Dash of Sass: ENOUGH

“Why wasn’t I enough for him?”
I can’t tell you how many times that was the cry of my heart…all within the bounds of one relationship…because I chose for years to stand there waiting for someone to look at me and actually SEE me. To love me. To treat me like I was ENOUGH. When really, he was the one who was lacking. Lacking in depth. Lacking in character. Lacking in honesty. Lacking in integrity. I » Read More

Merry Christmas, Single Ladies…

My dear friends…it’s that time of year again when being single can…well, sort of suck. When the happy family outing pictures from your married and taken friends on your Facebook feed seems to be on steroids. When you just can’t seem to muster the desire or will to rock around the Christmas tree as a party of one. But never fear. If you’re feeling especially solo this Christmas, I’m here to bring you good tidings of » Read More

Ten Things You Can Only Learn By Having Your Heart Broken

Today is one of my most significant ex’s birthday (whose name I won’t mention because I’m frankly tired of seeing it in print) and I find myself not thinking fondly back on our time together, but instead thinking gratefully of all the many lessons I have learned in our time apart. Or, to be more clear: In the time and space and distance I’ve had since he broke my heart for the final time almost exactly one » Read More

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