Dash of Sass: 40 Days to Feeling Good

I’ve realized over these past few weeks (as I’ve been dealing with some challenges) that I’m not very nice to myself. I am kind to others, supportive of others, encouraging to others…but when it comes to myself, I can be really harsh and unforgiving and completely lacking in grace. Examples of negative self talk:
“You look terrible today.””You’re so weak. Why does something so stupid bother you?””You’re never going to be normal and happy, like everyone » Read More

Dash of Sass: Stop Justifying Bad Behavior

How often do we justify things and people and behaviors in our lives that diminish us? I am passionate about this topic because I did it for 8 years: Justified over and over and over again the behavior of someone who claimed to love me but wasn’t acting loving toward me. I’d venture a guess that the #1 thing we justify is people’s actions so as to keep them in our life even though their » Read More

Dash of Sass: Ask For What You Need

Sometimes we’re afraid to ask for what we want from people and relationships and friendships because we’re afraid the other person will leave if we do. But part of being true to yourself is being willing to speak what’s on your heart in an honest and bold way, regardless of how the other person reacts. I’m not suggesting you make unreasonable demands and project unrealistic expectations onto everyone you know…I’m suggesting that you tactfully and » Read More

Vulnerability: Why It’s So Scary & So Necessary to Get Real

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one!” ~C.S. Lewis “Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.” ~Brené Brown “Real isn’t how you are made,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, » Read More

The Importance of Boundaries

‘No’ is a complete sentence. ~Anne Lamott
Evaluating the benefits and drawbacks of any relationship is your responsibility. You do not have to passively accept what is brought to you. You can choose. ~Deborah Day
Whatever you are willing to put up with is exactly what you will have. ~Anon
God has really been working on my heart lately in the area of boundaries.
To be perfectly honest and transparent, mine are a little jacked. Particularly in the area » Read More

The Single Woman’s Dash of Sass: If They’re Not INCREASING You, They’re DECREASING You!

Quote of the Day: “The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people. As you grow, your associates will change. Some of your friends will not want you to go on. They will want you to » Read More

The Single Woman’s Dash of Sass: Small Gestures, Big Impact

Quote of the Day: “Do you have any idea how rare it is to have friends that you’ve known your entire life? So please don’t underestimate that. Because in the end you always go back to the people that were there in the beginning.” The Single Woman Says: I found a very sweet note on my windshield this morning after a very bad day yesterday from one of my best friends, Alli. » Read More

Surface vs. Substance: The Importance of an Inner Circle

“You cannot have a private relationship in a public arena. You must look to an inner circle of people who really know you. Don’t expect to have that kind of intimate relationship with people who only know you publicly. Do not seek to be understood by the world.” ~T.D. Jakes The past couple of months of my life have been so rich with color and inspiration and new » Read More

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