Whatever Gets You Through the Day

I was talking with someone recently who went through a difficult divorce about a year ago and something he shared with me stuck with me so powerfully, I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it since. He said that during the awful, heart-wrenching time right after his divorce, he was held together by whiskey and Zoloft. Not by friends, or family, or his church, or even God Himself. What kept him going was whiskey » Read More

Why We Cling to People Who Don’t Love Us

Why did I cling to a guy who didn’t love me for almost eight years?

I’ve been asking myself that question a lot lately, as I see friends of mine trapped in similarly hopeless situations. Situations that I can see so clearly as someone who has been there and is now standing on the outside, looking in. They can’t see or think clearly because they’re in the thick of it. Too close to it. I guess » Read More

Stop Apologizing For Having High Standards

“But he’s got hair!”

This is my mom’s reasoning these days as to why I should date someone. This is what it’s all come down to. 37 years on this earth, at least 20 solid years of those spent looking for my Prince Charming…and this is the lone standard I’m trying to meet?!

In my mom’s defense, she wants to see her daughter get married sometime before she’s in the nursing home. And she does make a » Read More

Bold, Italic, & Unapologetic

I attended the CMT Awards last night for the first time in several years…only the second time I had attended since I lost my dream job at CMT in my mid-20’s. (That full story is in my second book, I’ve Never Been to Vegas But My Luggage Has, which just happens to be $1.99 on Kindle & Nook right now). Once upon a time I interviewed celebrities on the red carpet at those awards, a » Read More

When I Lose Myself…I Find Myself

“When I lose myself, I find myself.”

Seven words, spoken to me in passing today by a smiling man on a sidewalk during my daily walk.

He wasn’t really dressed for exercising…or even for the heat. He wore street clothes, not workout gear, and a toboggan in the 80-something degree weather. He had the biggest smile on his face.

I take a walk almost every single day down beautiful, tree-lined Main Street…and I’ve never seen the man before.

“When » Read More

The Hardness of Life. The Goodness of God.

It’s impossible to REALLY know God if you’ve only known good.

This is the phrase that keeps running through my head these days. Hard days, for more reasons than one. I’ve found myself increasingly attune lately to the hardness of life. My dear friend, probably my best friend, Caroline, has lost two friends in six months. One to disease, another to addiction. Another friend of mine is facing a huge life challenge and spiritual battle that » Read More

To the Man I Thought Was ‘The One’

To the Man I Thought Was “The One,” or my “Almost, Not Quite Love”:

This is the last time I will ever write about you. I’ve given you pages, chapters, BOOKS of my life…but now it’s time for me to write a new story now. One without you in it.

I’m ready to do that now. But to start a new chapter, you must first close the old one.

For years I asked God to bring closure to » Read More

Your Life Will Be Different…But It Will Be Amazing

My niece Livi drew this picture for her daddy the other day, and it moved me so much, I wanted to share it with all of you. The deep wells of wisdom that little one holds in her 8-year-old soul! As those of you who have been keeping up with my blog over the past couple of weeks know, my brother-in-law Kevin was in a near-fatal car wreck two weeks ago today and lost his » Read More

Scary, Beautiful, Necessary Change.

Some things are going to be changing around here.

I’ve been feeling a stirring, a restlessness, in my spirit, for some time now. Like I was ready for a change. A shift. A new direction. Not just in my writing but in my LIFE. I’ve been writing about singleness for six years now. I’ve explored it from just about every angle possible. I’ve written one self-published and three published books about it. I’ve loved sharing my » Read More

One Week Ago Today

I woke up this morning with snapshots from the past week running through my mind.

The phone call last Monday morning, exactly one week ago today. My mom’s voice, tearful and frantic, on the other end. “Kevin has been in an accident and we don’t know how bad it is. Cher and Daddy are on the way to him at Vanderbilt. Mandy…pray.”

Trying to throw on clothes while intermittently throwing myself on the floor before God to » Read More

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