Dash of Sass: ENOUGH

“Why wasn’t I enough for him?”
I can’t tell you how many times that was the cry of my heart…all within the bounds of one relationship…because I chose for years to stand there waiting for someone to look at me and actually SEE me. To love me. To treat me like I was ENOUGH. When really, he was the one who was lacking. Lacking in depth. Lacking in character. Lacking in honesty. Lacking in integrity. I » Read More

When a Man (Doesn’t) Love a Woman

How do I know if he really loves me and wants to be with me?

This is by far the question I get most from my readers. It makes me sad that so many wonderfully deserving and quality women out there are in situations or relationships where they even feel they have to ask this question. And still, I hear it all the time. From readers, from friends, across social media, and Lord knows I’ve heard » Read More

Dash of Sass: Whatever You’re Facing Today, Tomorrow Is On Its Way

I have a dear friend going through a big heartbreak right now…and this morning she texted me “How is it possible for this to still hurt me so horribly?” And I texted her back: “It hurts because you’re human, and because you were vulnerable with someone who didn’t value your heart and THAT’S NOT ON YOU…” And you know what? It also hurts because she’s stuck in the Today of it all. The newness of » Read More

2015 Was a Hard Year

It’s been a hard year.

2015 has been a hard year.

I’ve hesitated to write about it in-depth up til this point because I don’t think I was ready to see it all in words, on a piece of paper. I didn’t want to seem negative or whiny or discouraging. I didn’t want to be that vulnerable. 2015 was the year I became less vulnerable, and I hate it. I’m more guarded now…less open, less trusting. And » Read More

Dash of Sass: Stop Justifying Bad Behavior

How often do we justify things and people and behaviors in our lives that diminish us? I am passionate about this topic because I did it for 8 years: Justified over and over and over again the behavior of someone who claimed to love me but wasn’t acting loving toward me. I’d venture a guess that the #1 thing we justify is people’s actions so as to keep them in our life even though their » Read More

The Mason Jar

I wrote this over a month ago. It took me this long to feel ready to post it. A month later and my house barely remembers his visit. 

I like to believe that in a few more months like this…my life will feel just as wiped clean of his memory.

A week ago he walked into my house and with his words, attempted to tear it all down. Brick by brick, the words flew and the foundation » Read More

Dash of Sass: The Highs & the Lows of Life

Quotes of the Day: Perhaps without the lows, the highs could not be reached. ~Stephenie Meyer Life is about balance. The good and the bad. The highs and the lows. The pina and the colada. ~Ellen DeGeneres In all the highs and lows – God is still GOD. ~Unknown The Single Woman Says: I had one of those horrible cricks in my neck » Read More

Dash of Sass: It Is Well With My Soul

The story behind the old hymnal “It Is Well With My Soul” is as popular as the hymn itself. You’ve probably heard it at some point in your life. Horatio Spafford was a wealthy Chicago lawyer in the 1800’s with a thriving legal practice, a beautiful home, a wife, four daughters and a son. He was also a devout Christian. At the very height of his financial and » Read More

Three Days in New York: Part IV

“I understand feeling as small and as insignificant as humanly possible. And how it can actually ache in places you didn’t know you had inside you. And it doesn’t matter how many new haircuts you get, or gyms you join, or how many glasses of chardonnay you drink with your girlfriends…you still go to bed every night going over every detail and wonder what you did wrong or how you could have misunderstood. And how » Read More

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