Three Lies Single People Need to Stop Telling Ourselves

Someone asked me the other day what I think are the biggest challenges that single people face. And in my opinion, the answer is simple: It’s the lies we tell ourselves (yes, I’m talking to myself here, too. See this for the proof). The constant broken record we have on repeat in our minds, all day long, as we search for a reasonable explanation for our seemingly endless singleness. Here are three lies we tell ourselves that are » Read More

Why We Cling to People Who Don’t Love Us

Why did I cling to a guy who didn’t love me for almost eight years?

I’ve been asking myself that question a lot lately, as I see friends of mine trapped in similarly hopeless situations. Situations that I can see so clearly as someone who has been there and is now standing on the outside, looking in. They can’t see or think clearly because they’re in the thick of it. Too close to it. I guess » Read More

Stop Apologizing For Having High Standards

“But he’s got hair!”

This is my mom’s reasoning these days as to why I should date someone. This is what it’s all come down to. 37 years on this earth, at least 20 solid years of those spent looking for my Prince Charming…and this is the lone standard I’m trying to meet?!

In my mom’s defense, she wants to see her daughter get married sometime before she’s in the nursing home. And she does make a » Read More

Why Singleness Should Be Celebrated, Not Tolerated

As most of you know, I’ve spent the greater part of the past six years examining what it means to be single. And writing three books about it. And pointing out all the many positive aspects of single life. And leading the “Single & Fabulous” parade down the Main Street of Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, the Internet, and basically any media outlet that would listen. And generally being the poster child for shiny, happy singleness. » Read More

Single > Settling

Today I had one of those experiences that reminded me of just how much being single can sometimes feel like a series of poop emojis. (No, it’s not chocolate ice cream, people. It’s poop. Albeit, smiling poop.)

I stepped out to take out the garbage and for some reason, twisted the lock on my doorknob as I headed out, so when I got back to my apartment to let myself back in, I was greeted by a » Read More

When I Lose Myself…I Find Myself

“When I lose myself, I find myself.”

Seven words, spoken to me in passing today by a smiling man on a sidewalk during my daily walk.

He wasn’t really dressed for exercising…or even for the heat. He wore street clothes, not workout gear, and a toboggan in the 80-something degree weather. He had the biggest smile on his face.

I take a walk almost every single day down beautiful, tree-lined Main Street…and I’ve never seen the man before.

“When » Read More

To the Man I Thought Was ‘The One’

To the Man I Thought Was “The One,” or my “Almost, Not Quite Love”:

This is the last time I will ever write about you. I’ve given you pages, chapters, BOOKS of my life…but now it’s time for me to write a new story now. One without you in it.

I’m ready to do that now. But to start a new chapter, you must first close the old one.

For years I asked God to bring closure to » Read More

Your Life Will Be Different…But It Will Be Amazing

My niece Livi drew this picture for her daddy the other day, and it moved me so much, I wanted to share it with all of you. The deep wells of wisdom that little one holds in her 8-year-old soul! As those of you who have been keeping up with my blog over the past couple of weeks know, my brother-in-law Kevin was in a near-fatal car wreck two weeks ago today and lost his » Read More

Scary, Beautiful, Necessary Change.

Some things are going to be changing around here.

I’ve been feeling a stirring, a restlessness, in my spirit, for some time now. Like I was ready for a change. A shift. A new direction. Not just in my writing but in my LIFE. I’ve been writing about singleness for six years now. I’ve explored it from just about every angle possible. I’ve written one self-published and three published books about it. I’ve loved sharing my » Read More

From Catfights to Catwalks: How TV Gets Single Life All Wrong

 

It seems everywhere I look these days, there’s a new dating show. Always a new angle… on the same premise. Cram one man and multiple women into an enclosed space complete with a castle, a cheesy soundtrack, and contrived dates, add a heap of drama and a dash of scandal and you’ve got the formula for a hit show. Easy as that. Very little assembly required.

Our culture (myself included!) is addicted to watching gaggles of » Read More

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