Dash of Sass: God’s Plan Vs. Our Plan

How many times do we get angry and upset with God, thinking He has forgotten us or is ignoring us or isn’t answering our prayer? Only to later look back and see how detrimental it would have been to us had He brought us the thing we were begging for and thought we couldn’t live without? We’re stuck down here in the details of everyday life, but God sees all. He sees the big picture. » Read More

Dash of Sass: Ask For What You Need

Sometimes we’re afraid to ask for what we want from people and relationships and friendships because we’re afraid the other person will leave if we do. But part of being true to yourself is being willing to speak what’s on your heart in an honest and bold way, regardless of how the other person reacts. I’m not suggesting you make unreasonable demands and project unrealistic expectations onto everyone you know…I’m suggesting that you tactfully and » Read More

Dash of Sass: You Did All You Could. Now Let Go.

Maybe there wasn’t one thing you could have done differently to make things turn out differently. Maybe you did all you could (and then some). Maybe you should give yourself a break. Maybe, just maybe, you tried to love someone who didn’t love themselves enough to accept your love. Maybe the fact that you simply cared shows how brave you are. Maybe next time your efforts will be matched by someone who appreciates everything you » Read More

We Are All…The Single Woman

The following is an excerpt from my book The Single Woman: Life, Love, & a Dash of Sass:

Instead of “single & fabulous,” the life of a single woman in her late 20’s and beyond is all too often labeled “single & desperate.” Instead of viewed as a choice, “single” seems to denote a lack of options. Everyone seems to want to meddle in the life of the woman who refuses to settle; setting her up on » Read More

What Does Letting Go Look Like?

HOW do you let go and move on from ANYTHING in your life that no longer fits, no longer works, no longer brings you joy but pain, no longer brings you sunshine but rain?
Here’s how:
You take a deep breath, you say the words that you never imagined yourself saying, and you walk away. Battle-scarred and scared and unsure about the future as you may be, when you KNOW in your heart that this is not » Read More

Dash of Sass: The People Who Sit Next to Me in Coffee Shops, Volume 2: The Annoying Couple

Quote of the Day:
“Every day you have to make choices that ensure the thing you love continues to thrive. So if you find a way of life that is good for you, do whatever it takes to keep it. Complacency — the middle ground — is the attractive, safe choice. But fall into complacency, and that thing you love might wander off and be gone before you notice. Then what? Better to protect it in » Read More

Dash of Sass: Releasing the Idea of Someone

Quotes of the Day: “There’s a difference between loving the idea of someone and actually loving who they really are.” ~Unknown “Maybe you can try again, instead of loving someone you can’t be with.” ~Unknown The Single Woman Says: For those of you who have been following my blog for some time now, you know the story of my “Mr. Big.” And even if you » Read More

Dash of Sass: Are Your Facebook Posts Actually Driving Love Away?

Quotes of the Day: Desperation and impatience twist our thinking and pull us into error and deception every time. ~Michelle McKinney Hammond There is a very fine line between loving life and being greedy for it. ~Maya Angelou While this may look loving, when we struggle with an idol of dependence, we’re in fact not loving people as much as we’re using them to fulfill our » Read More

Dash of Sass: The Silver Lining of a Drive-By Relationship

Quote of the Day: Too many people miss the silver lining because they’re expecting gold. ~Arthur Yorinks The Single Woman Says: You know those relationships that come along ever so often in life that burst onto the scene with the power and intensity of a jet plane…only to limp out of the picture a couple of weeks later with less potency than a Radio Flyer with two » Read More

Dash of Sass: Obligation is Never a Good Reason to Keep Someone in Your Life!

Something occurred to me today as I scrolled through my Facebook timeline and came upon a very offensive and borderline mentally unbalanced political post from a Facebook “friend” – I am not obligated to keep this person in my newsfeed or my life out of “politeness.” She certainly wasn’t considering the impolite nature of her inflammatory post when she posted it, so why should I concern myself with » Read More

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