We Are All…The Single Woman

The following is an excerpt from my book The Single Woman: Life, Love, & a Dash of Sass:

Instead of “single & fabulous,” the life of a single woman in her late 20’s and beyond is all too often labeled “single & desperate.” Instead of viewed as a choice, “single” seems to denote a lack of options. Everyone seems to want to meddle in the life of the woman who refuses to settle; setting her up on » Read More

What Does Letting Go Look Like?

HOW do you let go and move on from ANYTHING in your life that no longer fits, no longer works, no longer brings you joy but pain, no longer brings you sunshine but rain?
Here’s how:
You take a deep breath, you say the words that you never imagined yourself saying, and you walk away. Battle-scarred and scared and unsure about the future as you may be, when you KNOW in your heart that this is not » Read More

Dash of Sass: The People Who Sit Next to Me in Coffee Shops, Volume 2: The Annoying Couple

Quote of the Day:
“Every day you have to make choices that ensure the thing you love continues to thrive. So if you find a way of life that is good for you, do whatever it takes to keep it. Complacency — the middle ground — is the attractive, safe choice. But fall into complacency, and that thing you love might wander off and be gone before you notice. Then what? Better to protect it in » Read More

Dash of Sass: Releasing the Idea of Someone

Quotes of the Day: “There’s a difference between loving the idea of someone and actually loving who they really are.” ~Unknown “Maybe you can try again, instead of loving someone you can’t be with.” ~Unknown The Single Woman Says: For those of you who have been following my blog for some time now, you know the story of my “Mr. Big.” And even if you » Read More

Dash of Sass: Are Your Facebook Posts Actually Driving Love Away?

Quotes of the Day: Desperation and impatience twist our thinking and pull us into error and deception every time. ~Michelle McKinney Hammond There is a very fine line between loving life and being greedy for it. ~Maya Angelou While this may look loving, when we struggle with an idol of dependence, we’re in fact not loving people as much as we’re using them to fulfill our » Read More

Dash of Sass: The Silver Lining of a Drive-By Relationship

Quote of the Day: Too many people miss the silver lining because they’re expecting gold. ~Arthur Yorinks The Single Woman Says: You know those relationships that come along ever so often in life that burst onto the scene with the power and intensity of a jet plane…only to limp out of the picture a couple of weeks later with less potency than a Radio Flyer with two » Read More

Dash of Sass: Obligation is Never a Good Reason to Keep Someone in Your Life!

Something occurred to me today as I scrolled through my Facebook timeline and came upon a very offensive and borderline mentally unbalanced political post from a Facebook “friend” – I am not obligated to keep this person in my newsfeed or my life out of “politeness.” She certainly wasn’t considering the impolite nature of her inflammatory post when she posted it, so why should I concern myself with » Read More

The Importance of Boundaries

‘No’ is a complete sentence. ~Anne Lamott
Evaluating the benefits and drawbacks of any relationship is your responsibility. You do not have to passively accept what is brought to you. You can choose. ~Deborah Day
Whatever you are willing to put up with is exactly what you will have. ~Anon
God has really been working on my heart lately in the area of boundaries.
To be perfectly honest and transparent, mine are a little jacked. Particularly in the area » Read More

Dash of Sass: Why You Can’t Expect or Assume Your Way Into Love

Quotes of the Day: “Put your expectations on God, not on people.” ~Joyce Meyer “Act without expectation.” ~Lao Tzu “Never idealize others. They will never live up to your expectations. Don’t over-analyze your relationships. Stop playing games. A growing relationship can only be nurtured by genuineness.” ~Leo Buscaglia “When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the » Read More

Dating and Single Parenting: How Does THAT Mix?

I am so very thrilled to be able to bring this very relevant, much needed message to you guys written by my dear friend, Danielle Rogers (pictured at left). If you are a fan of “The Voice,” you might recognize her from season 2, where she brought her own unique blend of sunshine and positivity to the screen almost every week as she cheered on her uber-talented son, Jamar.  I’m constantly asked » Read More

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