Stop Apologizing For Having High Standards

“But he’s got hair!”

This is my mom’s reasoning these days as to why I should date someone. This is what it’s all come down to. 37 years on this earth, at least 20 solid years of those spent looking for my Prince Charming…and this is the lone standard I’m trying to meet?!

In my mom’s defense, she wants to see her daughter get married sometime before she’s in the nursing home. And she does make a » Read More

14 Reasons to Celebrate Your Singleness This Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is upon us, and few things send single women running for the Ben & Jerry’s faster than the thought of spending another February 14th alone. From the obnoxious singling gorillas in silk boxers (I mean, c’mon…what self-respecting man (or ape) still wears silk boxers?!?) that assault our ears at Walgreens to the obnoxious “I love my hubby soooooooo much!” posts that wage war on our Facebook feeds…let’s face it: Valentine’s Day is not » Read More

Dash of Sass: ENOUGH

“Why wasn’t I enough for him?”
I can’t tell you how many times that was the cry of my heart…all within the bounds of one relationship…because I chose for years to stand there waiting for someone to look at me and actually SEE me. To love me. To treat me like I was ENOUGH. When really, he was the one who was lacking. Lacking in depth. Lacking in character. Lacking in honesty. Lacking in integrity. I » Read More

When a Man (Doesn’t) Love a Woman

How do I know if he really loves me and wants to be with me?

This is by far the question I get most from my readers. It makes me sad that so many wonderfully deserving and quality women out there are in situations or relationships where they even feel they have to ask this question. And still, I hear it all the time. From readers, from friends, across social media, and Lord knows I’ve heard » Read More

Five Reasons Why You Should Never Chase a Guy

Modern-day dating can be extremely tricky. And by “tricky” I mean often infuriating, frustrating, and unclear. It’s ironic that with all the texting and Facebooking and Snapchatting and oodles of other ways to send messages back and forth nowadays, never has communication felt more…non-communicative. No one’s dating anymore, they’re “hanging out.” And in the midst of all this super casual “hanging out,” signals and wires and intentions seem to have gotten crossed. Instead of the men » Read More

Dash of Sass: Real Love is Never Halfway There

Dealing with “in-between” people…it’s exhausting, isn’t it? They never let you know where you stand with them…they give you just enough of their attention and time to keep you on their hook but yet they still swim free…they disappear for weeks and even months on end but manage to come around just frequently enough to keep you from moving on. For them, it’s a win-win…no real commitment required, all the perks of a significant other » Read More

Ten Things You Can Only Learn By Having Your Heart Broken

Today is one of my most significant ex’s birthday (whose name I won’t mention because I’m frankly tired of seeing it in print) and I find myself not thinking fondly back on our time together, but instead thinking gratefully of all the many lessons I have learned in our time apart. Or, to be more clear: In the time and space and distance I’ve had since he broke my heart for the final time almost exactly one » Read More

Dash of Sass: God’s Plan Vs. Our Plan

How many times do we get angry and upset with God, thinking He has forgotten us or is ignoring us or isn’t answering our prayer? Only to later look back and see how detrimental it would have been to us had He brought us the thing we were begging for and thought we couldn’t live without? We’re stuck down here in the details of everyday life, but God sees all. He sees the big picture. » Read More

Not Settling for Less Than Someday

Those of you who follow my personal Twitter page know that my email inbox has long been a thing of abject horror and dread for me, based on my inability to properly keep up with it (and also my desperate need for a personal assistant who will work for smiles.) Well, last night, with the help of Pandora and my hilarious Twitter friends cheering me on, I FINALLY dove headfirst into my inbox and managed » Read More

Dash of Sass: Why You Haven’t Found What You’re Looking For

Sometimes we get mad and frustrated when we don’t find what we’re looking for. Or sometimes we find what we’re looking for but it’s not looking for us. But what we can’t see at the time is that the things that we DON’T find are the things that were never meant for us anyway. Pause a moment and consider the fact that maybe you haven’t found that dream job yet because God knows there’s a » Read More

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