You Are Not Invisible

Sometimes I feel particularly invisible to the opposite sex. Kind of like Harry Potter tossed his magical Cloak of Invisibility around me when I wasn’t looking and then darted off to go do whatever it is Harry Potter is doing these days. (Of course, old Harry is a male so he probably didn’t see me in the first place!) But seriously…as much as the idea of having a super power appeals to me, I could » Read More

Why I’m Still Single: The Ugly Truth

Why do I SAY I’m still single?

A pithy, “Because I’m too fabulous to settle.”

A polite, “Because I’m waiting for God to bring me the right man.”

A peppy, “Because there are still things I’m meant to accomplish as a single woman!”

But the truth is…sometimes I think the reason I’m still single is because I’m inherently flawed. Bad. Ugly. Undeserving. Screwed up. Unlovable.

THIS is the underbelly of singleness. The dark side. Where the rubber meets the road. » Read More

Dash of Sass: Stop Forcing. Stop Chasing. (Seriously, STOP.)

There’s something I’m super frustrated with lately, observing myself and my friends and reading emails from ladies who write to me for advice…and that is this idea that women seem to have that we need to work our toenails off to make a relationship happen with a man. That we have to “put ourselves in the way” of these men, otherwise they won’t remember us. That WE have to go out of our way to » Read More

Things I’m No Longer Apologizing For

Last weekend I posted something on my personal Twitter page that a lot of people disagreed with. I got hate tweets for two days about it, which was baffling to me, because when did having a differing opinion become so offensive to people? Are we all supposed to be cookie cutter versions of one another, never having or voicing a contrasting idea or thought or viewpoint or opinion? How boring would life be if that » Read More

Make Friends with Your Singleness: A Lesson in Grace from the GE Ideas Monster

I’ve been haunted by the General Electric “Ideas Monster” since I first saw him (her?) in a commercial a few months ago. If you haven’t seen this commercial and you have no idea what I’m talking about, click here. (You really need to see it before you read the rest of the blog.)

The commercial has stuck with me so powerfully, I can’t seem to shake it. Today I started wondering why. So I watched the » Read More

Advent. Waiting. And Singleness.

I’ve been trying to come up with a fun “single” twist on Advent season for the past week and I haven’t had much luck. The truth is, it can be easy as a single woman to feel a bit alienated from the mainstream Christmas traditions and books and such, as they are mostly family-oriented in nature and often serve to remind us singles that we don’t yet have a family. We shop for Christmas presents » Read More

Why I Think God Loves Single Women a Little Bit More

Sometimes my fingers literally start itching as inspiration strikes me, and I have to run and grab up my laptop and start writing immediately…let the words come tumbling out onto the page as fast as I can type before the moment escapes me and the idea gets tossed aside and forgotten.

As I was sitting and reading my daily devotionals this morning (and the number has grown to five. FIVE! Good grief.), I came to a » Read More

Dash of Sass: I Don’t Chase People Anymore

For a long time in my 20’s and even into my 30’s, I was constantly chasing after people and friendships and guys and things I thought were going to make me happy. A beautiful thing happened when I stopped the pursuit of happiness: I realized it had been here all along. Now I just stay in one place and trust that the people and opportunities meant to be in my life will flow to me » Read More

Dash of Sass: You Are NOT Alone

I received this question this morning from a Facebook friend and wanted to post it here, along with my answer, because I feel like this is an issue that many single women struggle with.

Mandy,

I keep trying and trying year and after and I am still alone. I pray every day. But everyone is a pair that I know and I am not included in anything. Many of my friends are married. I get excluded from the » Read More

Day 7: Where You Are in Your Life vs. Where You Thought You Would Be

Where you are in your life vs. where you thought you would be at this point.

Five years ago today, I walked away from the toxic, abusive, destructive relationship I was in and I never looked back. I didn’t have a blog, I had never sent a tweet, and I wasn’t The Single Woman. I was Mandy, the PR girl. I was on a completely different trajectory in life. I was newly single, my relationship with » Read More

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