Where I’ve Been. Where I Am. Where I’m Going.

PerfectI’ve been on a bit of a “hiatus” for the past three months and I thought maybe it was time to explain myself.

Some of you may have noticed I haven’t been tweeting or blogging or posting on social media in general as much (or at all. My blog sadly hasn’t been updated since March until today and my Facebook page went largely neglected as well). Some of you might not have missed me at all. But I have missed you…and it took me essentially vacating my spot as “The Single Woman” for a few months and then coming back to it to really realize how very much I missed you. You all think that I inspire you and I give you hope and courage with my words and the truth is, you do all that (and more!) for me. And I think I took it for granted a little bit. Actually, I don’t think I took it for granted as much as I didn’t feel worthy of it.

I’ve blamed my hesitation to write and blog and tweet and post over the past few months on “burnout,” as I went from one book launch last August (for my first book The Single Woman) right into a second book launch this past March for my second book, I’ve Never Been to Vegas but My Luggage Has. And I also spent most of the month of March on the road on a whirlwind book/speaking tour that took me from NYC (where we endured a major snowstorm) to LA (where we lived through LA’s most powerful earthquake in 20 years. True story.) And I even finally made it to Vegas with my luggage…but left there with a lot more baggage than I arrived with (more on that later). So I was definitely exhausted by the time my toes touched Tennessee soil again in mid-April. But there’s more to the story than that. A lot more.

In short, beautiful readers…I felt like I failed you.

I’ve just come through a season of life in which I was profoundly disappointed in myself. A season of floundering. A season of uncertainty and even darkness. One in which I hurt people and let people down and made wrong decisions and forgot who I was for a little while. I even spent a brief amount of that time (two months) “in a relationship”…at least according to Facebook…but sadly, the actual relationship never lived up to the hype created by me changing my relationship status. (A LOT more on that later. I promise.) Due to my overall discontentment with love and even my life in general, I began to feel as though I had no right to speak into yours. So I pulled back. I stopped sharing with you. I built up walls of defense around my heart and my life. And cut off from my creativity and the light that you guys bring into my world every single day, I began to wither like a flower in need of water.

Then a few weeks ago, I ended that ill-fated relationship, and once again became ‘The Single Woman’; not just in name but in reality. And in spirit. The cloud lifted. The sun began to peek through, slowly at first, then more with each passing day. I began to find my voice again. My fingers found my keyboard again. And here I am, standing before you, a little more broken but a LOT more open…and it has finally hit me. I can stop trying to be “perfect” for you guys. I can stop beating myself up because I’m not a spotless, flawless example of what a single woman SHOULD look like. And I can start being myself with you again: Imperfect and flawed and completely fallible as I am. I don’t know why I ever forgot that. I’m not a self-help guru. I’m not a pastor. I’m not a counselor. I’m simply me, a single woman, the same as you, who struggles and cries and overthinks and gets angry at God and makes wrong decisions and chooses wrong people. We’re in this thing together. Forgive me for forgetting that.

I am no longer where I’ve been. I am not yet where I’m going. I am somewhere in-between; not still the caterpillar but not yet the butterfly. I’m in the becoming…and I’m starting to see that in some ways, the becoming is even better than the being. It’s where the change happens. It’s where the bravery happens.

It’s where the magic happens.

This is my first blog in four months and I hope it is the start of a deeper and more vulnerable and REAL and authentic look at the life of a 30-something single woman. I hope it sparks a new conversation between us – one in which I might not always have some deep, meaningful lesson to add to. Some days I might just tell you about my day. Or ask you about yours. Or complain about boys. 🙂  But whatever we talk about, I promise not to retreat again just because I am struggling. This time around, I plan to invite you into the struggle with me, as I have a suspicion that my struggles might just be the same as yours.

Because as I’ve said a million times before…

We are ALL The Single Woman.

I love every single one of you to infinity,

Mandy

191 Responses to “ Where I’ve Been. Where I Am. Where I’m Going. ”

  1. Milly
    July 16, 2014

    Experienced the same recently. We will get through this! Thanks for sharing and welcome back.

  2. July 16, 2014

    You have been very missed. And part of what I love about you is that you’re NOT perfect, and now you feel free enough to acknowledge that. NONE of us are even close. I, like you, have always been a perfectionist and a people pleaser. Wanting to make everybody happy and do everything I can to be what everybody else needs, only to lose myself more and more as time passes. I finally stopped doing that, although I have times of backsliding as well. I think it’s a beautiful thing that we are imperfect, because it gives us a reason to always strive to do better and be better. Not for other people or for things, only for ourselves. I, for one, am so glad that you are back. I am sorry for your brokenness, but in that also comes growth and insight. 30’s and single is not a bad thing at all…on Saturday, I will be entering the 40s and single portion of my life. I’ve been single for seven years, and will stay that way as long as God leads me to. I’m hoping single and 40 is going to kick single and 30’s butt! God bless you, and stay strong, but give yourself room to be less than perfect and to be exactly who you are…for you!

  3. Jenn Bauer
    July 16, 2014

    I have missed you, I love your writing, your books, but mostly I love knowing that another person is out there going through the same ups and downs that relationships bring. It is in sharing your stories that we all can share press, they are not all beautiful nor always inspirational, but they are real and moving through them together is so much better than alone. I’m glad you are back and I look forward to hearing more of your journey.

  4. LeAnne
    July 16, 2014

    WoW, thank you!!!!

  5. Stacey C
    July 16, 2014

    Hi. Thanks for being so open and sharing. I’m 43 and still single. I haven’t been happy for a while now and I keep a lot inside of what I’m feeling. I’m reading the Sassy Survival Guide right now and your other book. I’m looking forward to reading your new book. I’m trying to learn to be happy with just myself.

  6. Lila
    July 16, 2014

    bless you, thank you for sharing and if I could reach through my iPhone and give you a hug I so would!! We do all make mistakes. And yes I’ve missed you terribly… glad you are back and I’m happy to be here reading about your not so perfect life, because after all mines no walk in the park…

  7. K
    July 16, 2014

    ((((HUGS))))
    That. Is. All.

  8. Andrea McGrath
    July 16, 2014
  9. cassie
    July 16, 2014

    Thanks for coming back Mandy. I am a new reader of your blog and have only started following you since a friend of mine recommended your book. You have helped me through the hardest breakup of my life. Harder than when my ex-husband left me and our child for a younger girl he was having an affair with. At 36 I thought I would die from a broken heart. I truly thought I had found my happy ending after a horrible marriage. Not so, but your book has helped me heal. I still have dark days and its been 9 months. In time I hope to be able to truly let go. You have helped me more than you know and I am so glad you are back. We have missed you!

  10. Valere
    July 16, 2014

    Beautiful. Hang in there and just remember every struggle takes us one step closer to our destiny and His plan. We just have to push forward. Hugs!

  11. Karlena
    July 16, 2014

    We missed you! Your words have given me strength in times of weakness. Thank you for always sharing!

  12. matebogo
    July 16, 2014

    Hey Mandy, it is so nice to hear from you again after such a while. Your wisdom and insight has been our companion during your absense, so although you have been not in touch fully with us, In someways you have, I mean everyday I read your inspiring quotes and find courage in finding my way through relationships, being a single woman. Thus, my plea is…don’t beat yourself too hard, life is kinda the master at that. Everything does happen with reasons, even those that aren’t apparent to us at first. Something good will/has come out of this, us realising how human you are, and you accepting that you don’t have to be perfect to inspire us, but rather be perfect in your imperfections as a way to bring us all to light. I truly value all your advice and writing and I’m just so happy to know more will be coming from you. I missed you too, we all have. So cheer up, and let’s go beyond Vegas now, and physically this time;)

  13. July 16, 2014

    Mandy,
    Well I certainly missed you on social media! You became a huge part of my day and my journey just as Mastin Kipp has too. 🙂 (PS When I read he had a profound impact on your life and your journey I got tears in my eyes, because same goes for me.) Thank you so much for being so real and authentic in this blog. It is true; we really are sharing the same struggle in one way or another. We just need to keep sharing our stories even when they’re not necessarily pretty. Guess what? No one else’s is that pretty either. 😉 We’re all in this together. I look forward to re-connecting over social media and your blog. YAY!

  14. July 16, 2014

    I noticed you were gone. I searched for you. Saw your fun pics on Instagram and wondered what happened to those daily tweets that got me through those most difficult times. We all have setbacks, we’re human but this is your calling and I’m glad to see you back on the regular, love you ❤️

  15. July 16, 2014

    Thank you for being you. We all struggle at times and it’s good to know we aren’t alone. We have to live, learn and appreciate ourselves. I myself have learn to take a step back and breath. Nothing is perfect and I have realized that there is beauty in the not so perfect. Your blogs, quotes, books and Facebook page puts a smile on my face when I read them. Because I know I’m not the only one questioning things too. Welcome back.

  16. July 16, 2014

    Thank you so much. I seriously shed tears. It’s so difficult while going through something to even want to share. Society has made us feel like we have to keep it all together and that is so very wrong. I was blessed reading this latest blog. Many hugs to you. @msange_25 on IG

  17. Jessica
    July 16, 2014

    Don’t forget – in order for the caterpillar to become a butterfly, she needs to hide herself away, alone in a cocoon, and just be by herself for a little while, so she can grow.

  18. July 16, 2014

    Thank u so much for posting this…I am inspired and encouraged, love u and ur work. Be blessed.

  19. Heather
    July 16, 2014

    Mandy,

    You are a beautiful, honest, compassionate, awesomely talented, admirable woman – and that is partly because you are human and not perfect. All of that is why I have love in my heart for you and I am thankful for the way you put your heart out there. You inspire so many and you have in no way failed. So chin up, my dear. Your fellow Single Women are here with you, supporting you through the good and the bad.

    Welcome back and keep being you!

  20. Tory
    July 16, 2014

    Welcome back Mandy!!! You have been missed!!
    Your “confession” above brings tears to my eyes! Struggles in themselves are difficult & yet we retreat as though it is our responsiblility to deal with them alone rather than drawing on the strength of our loved ones. I believe it’s due to our feelings of independence, fear of being judged, and sel-imposed sense of failure. You said in one of your books that these are growing seasons, they are difficult to embrace while enduring them, but looking back at the growth, strength & knowledge gained…we should feel accomplished, renewed & powerful!

    I’m proud of you for taking the time to reflect & heal. You did this in the manner you knew how & you’ve come back to share & help us to grow! This is truly your mission!! You’ve given so much of us strength, encoragement & support in so many ways…I hope as your readers, followers & supporters we can give back to you!! You are amazing & I’m delighted you’ve returned!!

    • Deard
      July 23, 2014

      It’s OK for you to find love and be in love. When you do please document it. God bless

    • gail
      August 27, 2014

      Loved you since day 1 and am so glad you are back in my life.
      we all have those bad moments, days, weeks, months, years but through God, & friends we can make it!
      WELCOME ALWAYS
      SISTER, gail

  21. Stephanie
    July 16, 2014

    Mandy it’s so good to hear from you again. I think the beauty of what you’ve done with this website & blog is the fact that you tell us all about your victories and failures as they are happening to you because I can assure you that they are happening to us. I don’t know the details of what you’ve been through during your hiatus but I can relate to your feelings as I am in the midst of a hiatus myself in different areas of my life. The hope and healing is coming to me slowly but surely but being a part of this community of fabulous and fearless ladies helps me get up each day. Keep doing what your doing you beautiful lady!

  22. Katie
    July 16, 2014

    So glad to have you back!

  23. Yaw Lee
    July 16, 2014

    You still sound like every single one of us — single woman. 😀 Do not apologize for who you have been for awhile. Our flaws make us more beautiful, more human, more real. We are no Barbie Dolls (I thought we’ve all agreed on this? Hehe! )

  24. July 16, 2014

    Mandy, ty so much I’ve been single for going on 2yrs from a 14yr relationship, lived together for over 10yrs bought house n 6yrs after he cheated on me w/his ex. I knew about it for a whole year & I’d ask him if there was anything he wanted to talk about & I’d get the same answer each time till that 1 day came where he gave up on my son & helping him out during teenage yrs that’s what made me be strong to leave him …any who’s no worries you just made a fan for life. I just recently came back to life

  25. July 16, 2014

    I am SO glad to have you back!! I thought for a moment for the past months that TSW is gone forever and I couldn’t bear with that because I just started reading your new book last month and found out about your website last month as well. And I sort of was left empty handed when I saw your website was not updated…. Anyways, thank you for coming back. You don’t know how much you have inspired me, and believe it or not, I am only 18 and most people might say that I am too young for this, but I think not. I just broke up with my 3-year boyfriend last February and now in my pursuit of happiness. Even with my age, I can relate well to your posts and works. Thank you. And keep on inspring us! 🙂

  26. Joanna
    July 16, 2014

    Thank you for writing again! I am a 37yr old single woman, never married but hoping, praying, longing for Mr. Right!
    I can totally relate to all of your postings. Thank you again for sharing! I don’t feel so alone in my thoughts now!

  27. July 16, 2014

    I could feel your transparency! This is the space I’ve been in since last year, when All seemed to not ‘fall into plan’. I was just too disapointed in myself that I stopped caring to enjoy life again. Am learning to live in the now, not block the world and everyone, but allowing myself to just be, to feel again, infact to live again. Thank you for sharing*

  28. Catey
    July 16, 2014

    Mandy you are simply amazing! I am so excited to see and hear from you again!! Your encouragement and honesty saved me but more importantly it changed me as I let go a of a on again off again dysfunctional unhealthy love of 4 years(my first “big” love as I call him now) God put your book, you essentially in my life for that purpose. Your wisdom and insight gave me strength and helped me through it, I hope that this snidbit of how you have encouraged me encourages you a little bit. Looking forward to reading and hearing more from you soon!!

    Xoxo
    A fellow single woman❤️

  29. July 16, 2014

    Mandy,

    You are a bright light in a dim world. Your inward honesty and awakened spirit always bless me—I don’t care if it’s a one line post or a thousand-word blog. I will always be eager to read share your heart journey. And, I will support & love you through every season BECAUSE you are openly, honestly, and beautifully imperfect. Love, Toni <3

  30. Stacy Smith
    July 16, 2014

    Great to see you write again!! Your books are more inspiring than I had ever thought they would be… many of us see ourselves when you bravely talk about your own life. You are absolutely correct in that we are all in this together! You have a beautiful skill to speak to us via your words… no matter what you are going through in your life, and we treasure that about you! All of us single women go through the highs and lows… and the struggle, joy, anger, and excitement… we want to help you just as you help us! No matter what life brings your way, please keep your talent of writing!

  31. katie
    July 16, 2014

    Welcome back Mandy! Remember, you are human too! There is no need for perfection. God doesn’t ask for perfection. He loves us in the good we do and we are expected to fail and learn. This is part of our mission in life. We appreciate your words and wisdom and are thankful for the journey you allow us to join with you. You have accomplished so much by showing that the Single Woman is unique, wonderful, confident and worth it. Thank you for all you do.

  32. Chrystal
    July 16, 2014

    Mandy- you’ve been missed a great deal! I’ve looked forward to your insight and inspiration each day and have missed you while on hiatus. What has made your blog, your posts on social media, etc so special and so meaningful is not that you’re “perfect” but rather, that you’re real, you’re genuine and you’re speaking to what so many of us feel, have experienced and/or think about our lives and the way things “should be.” I appreciate your willingness to open up and share your life! It’s given me a perspective of accepting and embracing my life as it is. Thank you for helping me down that path!

  33. Desiree
    July 16, 2014

    I have noticed that you weren’t posting & writing as much. I have to say I did miss you. No I don’t know you personally but through your stories & post I feel like I’ve know you for years. You have no idea how much you’ve helped me! I love reading your post & blogs, they are very inspirational! I struggle with being single, being 23 this is not where I thought id be. But you have taught me that that’s ok. Thank you for everything. Welcome back & I’m happy that your happy

  34. Dee
    July 16, 2014

    Mandy,
    So happy to see you again, I’ve noticed your absence and hoped the best for you. I am no longer single but still love to see what you have to say and I still make sure to pay attention to the points you make so that I don’t ever forget who I am. You have touched so many lives in seasons of life and I will always carry your message with me and hopefully pass it on to my daughter (if God blesses me with one). I know it is easier to hide away out of fear of disappointing others so this is very brave what you have said. But I also hope you remember that we all (I hope) wish the best for you and share your joy and your pain even though we haven’t met! Thanks for all you do, you are entitled to deal with things any way that works for you until you are ready and when you are just know thousands of people will be smiling 🙂

  35. Jennifer Brown
    July 16, 2014

    Praise the Lord Mandy,
    I must admit I am not one of your followers, I have not read either of your books, and I’ve never even read your blog before today. However, I saw you on Twitter and your message caught my attention. I want to commend you for your level of transparency, and your willingness to be real and be open with your listeners and followers. I too am a single woman who is in the process! the process of being changed, the process of being renewed, the process of being re-made! I am under construction! Lol 🙂 . I am delighted to hear of your journey and your struggles and to know that God is working on all of us at the same time. Praise God that His grace is sufficient for us and that he will perfect the work that he has begun in us. Please be encouraged my sister and continue to press forward in what God has called you to do!
    Blessings.
    -Jenb

  36. Rosa
    July 16, 2014

    You were definitely missed! But time to reflect/heal/retreat/rest is always needed and never has to be apologized for… I’ve been learning that myself lately 🙂 Never doubt that your words are inspiring to so many people… not because we expect perfection, but because you are real, and we can relate to your struggles and imperfections because they are ours as well. Welcome back!!! 🙂

  37. Misty
    July 16, 2014

    Great post Mandy! I can completely relate to where you’re at. I’ve been in the same place myself for the past several months. It’s part of our journey through this crazy life. If anything, I’m hoping it allows us to put things into perspective and learn more about ourselves. You’re right, you’re a single woman just like us who has good days and bad, hopes, dreams, fears, and worries. None of us are postive all the time. Life sometimes knocks us down. The important thing is that we have each other to help pick us back up. 🙂

  38. Liz
    July 16, 2014

    Welcome back and thank you for sharing that! I needed to hear that.. Thanks for being you Mandy!!

  39. Amanda
    July 16, 2014

    Thank you for coming back Mandy! You inspire so many and definitely me. Through all of your writing and posts I have learned I am truly not alone on this crazy single woman journey. Just like you I have more not so great heartbreak stories than I should! You remind me that life isn’t all about having the guy, it’s about being me and following my heart. I love that your faith runs deep. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, good and bad. I often wonder why relationships always seem to be the thing I learn some of the hardest lessons from but I know God has a plan far greater than I imagine. He has one for you too! Already He uses your singleness to help and inspire women all over the world. That is a blessing beyond measure that God keeps you where you are just for us. I know you want that fairy tale ending and I have no doubt that you will find it. Thank you again for coming back to us and sharing. I know without a doubt I need your words of wisdom more now than ever! Keep your chin up, you are an amazing woman! 🙂

  40. Maria
    July 16, 2014

    Different countries, different ages, different relationships, but at the end of the day we are still all together the single women searching for your support and light, and thanks to God, finding it.

  41. Suzannah
    July 16, 2014

    Hi Mandy~
    I have both of your books, I follow you on both Facebook and Pinterest, and I enjoy reading your blog. I have to confess that tonight (prior to reading this blog entry), I started reading your first book…yes, I hadn’t read it yet and here’s why: I am a single Mom of one little girl, and I don’t have a very friendly connection with her Dad (he is now married with his own kids, and could care less about me). I have had a HORRIBLE past with guys and so-called relationships, that I am seriously considering writing my own book on it! I have regretfully spent my daughter’s whole life trying to find my soulmate..with zero luck. It has become such a habitual thing, that the thought of not searching for ‘him’ is uncomfortable. I am going to turn 30 this year, and the panic has set in, and I am reminded daily by Facebook posts and statuses..just how behind I am from everyone else. I come from a Catholic family, where my parents will be married for 40 years in August, and my siblings are all married with children…with the exception of my baby sister, but I’m sure she’ll beat me to the altar *insert panic attack. Anyways, I decided to pick up your book tonight because I am beyond sick of riding this crazy train of panic and desperation. So far I can totally relate to everything you’ve written, and it makes me feel less of a single freak…so thank you for that, and for being someone whom I can relate to. I’m ecstatic you’re here, and I look forward to hearing (and relating) more from you.
    God Bless!

  42. Tiera Miles
    July 16, 2014

    Welcome Back! We love you and have missed you dearly. We all have those moments, I am one who can vouch for that. Sometimes we feel the need to disconnect and that’s okay, as long as you come back! Keep pushing! We single women love you! 🙂

  43. Carla Jo Valadez
    July 16, 2014

    Oooh Mandy girl. Whatever you do is ok with us your readers. We are not possessive and understand u need a break. I did wonder and hoped it was not for negative reasons though. I even thought, she prob met someone! It’s learning is all, don’t get too dissapointed about relationships. Take a breath and u wil find the fun again in time. I’m alone but not lonely. I was married for 25 yrs til my hubby went home to God. Your soulmate is coming jus keep doing what you do. Being thirty, flirty and FUN!!
    Love and hope,
    Carla

  44. Bcan
    July 16, 2014

    I’m new to your blog. I read your first book and I’m looking forward to getting to know you and others who are walking on the same road. Your quotes have really helped me stay focused and hoepful for the future. Thank you.

  45. Dee
    July 16, 2014

    Mandy…
    There is no expectation of perfection on our part…nor do we expect for you to remain single just so that we can identify with each other. I think we all can say that we hope that Mr. Right will come along and sweep us off of our feet…and it be real, true, and good. We identify with your journey…with the strong singleness that we all share..being at our core…making us whole, all on our own. But there is a progression to our journeys together…one that seeks love and fulfillment and if we don’t put ourselves out there and try, we will never progress. Through the mistakes, we discover more about ourselves and what we are willing to put up with, and what we will not…what we want becomes more clear. Nothing ever happens by mistake. We gain something from all of it and it prepares us for “the one”. I believe that when we have learned what we must, and when “the one” has as well, it will be in God’s perfect timing that we are brought together. Until then, we are all a work in progress….being refined.

  46. Carmen
    July 16, 2014

    “I am no longer where I’ve been. I am not yet where I’m going. I am somewhere in-between; not still the caterpillar but not yet the butterfly. I’m in the becoming…and I’m starting to see that in some ways, the becoming is even better than the being. It’s where the change happens. It’s where the bravery happens.” ~~ This line struck me the mos!. This is the process of what being single is about. For me it has been a long process, been single for over 12 years. As the changes keep happening, I am kept in the ‘in-between’, constantly changing and growing spiritually, mentally, emotionally…but nonetheless stronger. It’s people like you that keep me positive. It’s ok to be single and happy. We need to change society’s view that it’s not necessary to be partnered, I came from that generation where past 24 yrs old and single, you are considered a spinster. Thank you for sharing your experience.

  47. Melanie
    July 17, 2014

    Welcome back Mandy!! I was in a rough place after a relationship that ended in March. I read both your books, signed up for your blog, followed you on instagram, and I even joined twitter so I could get the updates and nuggets of knowledge that you love to share. I just wanted to tell you how much your writing has meant to me AND HELPED ENCOURAGE ME as well as my friends. I can’t even begin to start on how much your words of wisdom and you sharing your stories have all helped and inspired me! Thank you for all you do and know that you are being prayed for!!

  48. Allyson
    July 17, 2014

    Good to finally meet you; just joined and then your were gone BUT I get it :).

  49. Maya
    July 17, 2014

    LOOOOVVEEE THIS. This is so refreshingly raw , honest and sincere. We need more of this. This just gave me confirmation, tonight , as I also confessed my flaws & struggles with a crowd of people when I was asked to speak at a church. As a lady who came up to me afterwards said, “its so freeing to tell your real story & your struggle, the enemy can’t use it against you anymore, you’re comfortable with it now.”

  50. July 17, 2014

    Hello there!!!! I have been there and i know where u are coming from and what u r talking about. But the best part is getting back on track and u are back on track and m really happy for u. Its the realizations that makes us better person than we were . I am very confident that u r in a journey of discovering many more beautiful blessings. Hope to keep hearing from u and m sure u will have many more beautiful experiences to share. Keep fighting the good fight, u r never alone 🙂

  51. Cath Williams
    July 17, 2014

    Wow Mandy Welcome back 🙂 I found you ! Yes your facebook update came up on my page and i hit the “like” button immediatly and came to this wonderful page. Its great so i hope your feeling proud… We all hide away at times as we walk our journey and find ourselves, its ok. Keep up the great work and continue to inspire and provide the laughs. i look forward to catching up with the blogs.. all my best Cath

  52. Elise
    July 17, 2014

    Mandy you are inspiring even in your “retreat.” I can’t tell you how much a lot of what you said resonates with my own experiences in life. And in your honesty and vulnerability you bring comfort and renewed hope that I am not alone and I’m not abnormal to feel the way I feel and be going through what I’m going through. Thanks for sharing your humanness! Sending you love and prayers girlfriend! Keep following your beautiful heart!

  53. Liv Grande (from Manila Philippines)
    July 17, 2014

    This article is so powerful. Mandy never failed me to be inspire in all her writing works. I heart you Mandy Hale. 🙂 ♥ Keep on inspiring single woman. You are brave and strong. SALUTE!

  54. Kristi Golds
    July 17, 2014

    It’s funny. Just yesterday I specifically went to your blog for the first time in a while and noticed you hadn’t posted for some time. Then I got an email alerting me about this one. So to me your timing is impeccable 🙂
    Escaping is important, I think – I do it regularly. Something else I did yesterday is read about how sharing your vulnerability, and showing how you handle it, is more helpful to people than only showing yourself as strong. So thanks for sharing this part of your journey. I hope you’ve gotten exactly what you needed from the whole experience.

  55. Ciara Brown- Humes
    July 17, 2014

    I’m so Happy that you are back. It was really wonderful to have you before now your back with new and excited things, topics and more. I’m so ready!!!!

  56. July 17, 2014

    The very fact that you have those moments of weakness and are brave enough to expose that to the internet in all its glory, is one of the reasons why you are so dearly loved and respected. Your humanity and ‘weakness’ actually makes me even more motivated to listen to what you have to say, to learn from you and to have the strength to forgive myself too. Thank you for sharing with us Mandy!

  57. Timber
    July 17, 2014

    Mandy, you were missed. I started looking for you on my Twitter TL because I thought I was missing your posts. I am glad you are well. I wish I could message you privately but I guess this forum will have to do. I won’t be offended even if you choose to delete it. I hope you receive this in the spirit that it is given. I love your blog and have since I found it but this has always stood out to me. It’s what you call yourself .. ‘The Single Woman’. I remember thinking that is cute but she is speaking that over herself. That’s cool if that’s what you want to be, but if you would like to move into a relationship continuously calling yourself that will hinder that process. I don’t know a thing about your relationship that just ended but do you think part of the reason you didn’t ‘talk’ to your audience during that time is because you were conflicted because the ‘the single woman’ now had a man? I can’t say that for sure, and I can’t judge. I am a divorced mom in her 30’s, so I know there are other obstacles to dating besides a name. I will just leave you with one example.. Abram to Abraham. I am sure that you get my reference. I know you’ve built your brand around ‘The Single Woman’ and tampering with that may not be an option. It’s just food for thought.

  58. Tullia
    July 17, 2014

    Mandy, we love you as you are, whether your single or not, really doesnt define your identity. You are the single woman because you embody authenticity, courage and truth. Your voice carries the voices of others who dont have the platform or the boldness to speak up about the every day struggles of life as a woman. Your vulnerability gives us the motivation to press forward against life’s challenges. You are a beautiful princess, daughter of God, who is loved and accepted for who she is regardless of how she feels. You don’t ever need to be anything more than your lovely self and in that there should never be any pressure to be just you. I applaud your courage in being vulnerable. In your weakness, God is strong. I am praying for you that you will see yourself and your life through God’s eyes as He sees you – His absolutely bold and courageous warrior princess. Courage comes from vulnerability. You are loved by God. Anyone elses opinion doesn’t matter – only God’s opinion of you does. God loves you and He is proud of you. God gives us beauty for our ashes and the oil of joy for our mourning. Radiant, beautiful princess Mandy, Beloved, royal daughter of the King of Kings. Shine on. 🙂

  59. Jen Zun
    July 17, 2014

    awww! Mandy it’s ok! It’s totally okaaay! Sometimes we need to be alone and just have that me-time. We’re all subjected of being weak and vulnerable at times, ’cause we’re only humans. But that doesn’t mean you’re wronged or sinned or whatever. Don’t forget we’re all here for you! 😉 You’re always welcome! <3

  60. Portia Mbatha
    July 17, 2014

    Wecome back Mandy!

  61. P'tite Cherie
    July 17, 2014

    You are brave Mandy. Your honesty reminds me of me and your candidness is so refreshing, but I’d never have the courage to share it with another person let alone the world, so I applaud you. Your difficulties are not invain and your books and blogs I believe help so many women around the world, your life is your story and it will inspire so many people am sure. We don’t expect perfection because we are all imperfect and flawed , so lets journey on together.

  62. Vicky Cruz
    July 17, 2014

    So glad to see you’re back not mad at you for taking some time away because we grow in everything. Yes you are perfectly flawed like the rest of us and I can totally relate to how you were feeling not worthy. I am known as a woman of strength and inspiration amongst my family and friends and it makes me feel like I need to be careful on just how much I show my pain or fears because I am the one that encourages people when they are at their worse. Sometimes I think…how will they all keep believing in the good to come if I show that I am not “perfect”. I love your posts many times I share them on Facebook and others, even men like them, comment and/or share them. And so your word remains eternally moving through the masses. Thank you for all you do. We are all in this together and cal learn from each other.

  63. Portia Mbatha
    July 17, 2014

    Welcome back Mandy!
    I love your blog because it speaks to my experiences as a Christian, single woman living in the world as it is. What makes your blog unique is that you own your truth. In so doing you are able to connect with women from different parts of the world, on different paths of life. Your blog encourages me, challenges me and reaffirms me according to my need at the time. It reminds me that as a child of God, there is nothing rebellious about being unable to remain in societal boxes. It also provides me with a sense of connection, that there are other like-minded and diverse people who share similar experiences to my own. Thank you for your honest vulnerability, may God keep using you and bless you abundantly.

  64. Alexis Salcido
    July 17, 2014

    Mandy!! So glad you’re back! I missed you! You help me so much to remember my worth and value isn’t based on whether I have a boyfriend. I cannot wait for future topics from you, keep your head up <3

  65. anna
    July 17, 2014

    Welcome back Mandy I so get you. Going through changes in so many areas of my life. But heads up I rest in the palm.of his hand. Same as you and all other readers do

  66. anna
    July 17, 2014

    Welcome back Mandy I so get you. Going through changes in so many areas of my life. But heads up I rest in the palm.of his hand. Same as you and all other readers do

  67. Jasmina
    July 17, 2014

    Hi Mandy

    Just finished reading your second book yesterday. I can just say: You are amazing and thanks for sharing!
    As all of us struggle from time to time why shouldn’t you? No need to appologize for anything. I hope you feel better and as you said – everything happens for a reason.

    Happy to have you back!

  68. Mpho
    July 17, 2014

    Welcome back Mandy! There’s absolutely no need to beat yourself up. You were living life, had an experience and learnt a lesson from all of it. There’s no rule for living living a flawless life. Why would you even want to have a flawless life? How would you grow if you lived flawlessly? Wouldn’t that mean there’s no room for better? I hope as your followers you will journey with us through your healing process 🙂

  69. Joy
    July 17, 2014

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I needed to see and read this. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. It hurts my feelings that you have had to endure this, on the other hand, this helps me and I am sure others see that we do have to endure our own ego and that we have to get past that ego to have the life we are meant to have. You are in my prayers and I can’t wait to see what we will all learn together. In case, you didn’t see it or feel it the other times I said it, thank you.

  70. July 17, 2014

    I admit, I sometimes struggled with your posts prior to this because they sounded a little too perfect and made me less willing to be vulnerable. However, clearly you have learned and loved during your hiatus and I am thoroughly looking forward to more of your honest and hilarious writing. I pray that your new vulnerability breeds vulnerability with your (and my own!) single sisters, and that collectively we navigate this journey in a way that is both edifying to one another and glorifying to the Lord. You are a wonderful, fallible human, and grace is good. Keep writing, girl!

  71. Adedoyin
    July 17, 2014

    it is good to have you back. welcome back, and of course we all missed you. there were times I missed your posts so much, I thought the fact you were in a relationship shouldn’t end your precious messages to us. Girl you need to know you were missed. never mind, the real man is just around the corner.

  72. Ari
    July 17, 2014

    Mandy,

    Welcome Back! Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing it with us. It is comforting to know everyone struggles, not just me, not just you, everyone. I as well kept my struggles to myself until I went through a devestating ending. I was forced to lean on friends, family, and god. Until then, people had no idea my life was not this perfect vision they saw. This event made me closer to everyone. I now have very loving and close relationships with my friends and family. In the end, I found being vulnerable helped other people as well. I wish you luck and look forward to your future blog posts.

  73. July 17, 2014

    Welcome back Mandy

  74. July 17, 2014

    Welcome back! In the midst of my own life and own set of struggles I had not noticed you were gone until you announced it and then I realized that without your inspiration a part of me was missing too. Our lives are so congruent with each other and I find myself single again also! I am working on a book of my own and the fire inside me died down after that break-up too so I can completely understand and sympathize with you. Heck, maybe we can swap stories sometime and just realize that in a world with billions you are not alone when you feel it. Someone understands and surprisingly makes some of the same crazy mistakes with life that you do!
    Best wishes to you and all you do!
    Jennifer

  75. July 17, 2014

    We all missed you

  76. Stephanie
    July 17, 2014

    What an awesome, God-timed post for me to read today. I just discovered you recently myself, so I’m still devouring the blogs and notes from the past anyway… but over the last month, I’ve also stepped away from your site, my devotionals, and frankly my priorities… mainly to focus too much on a guy. And the void shows. Now, as I’m trying to pull my priorities back together, I have also felt like a flounderer and a failure to so many around me… and this pursuit of perfection has brought me, a normal go-getter, to the brink of depression. I’m fighting it, turning back to God, and am starting to see the light again…
    So THANK YOU for being honest about your struggle. It really helps to know that I’m not the only one trying to be “perfect”. God wants me as I am, and he wants you as you are. Thank you for reminding me that as long as each day includes Him in my walk, everything will be ok even though not “perfect”.
    My new motto: “I can only do one step at a time, but I can do anything through Him who strengthens me.”
    Good luck to you, too, Mandy!

  77. JANETTE ALVAREZ
    July 17, 2014

    Mandy,

    You are human, and I at least love your post and that you are SO REAL…. I was awaitng your blog and this one as usually was worh the wait.. May God continue to Bless you.. as you bless us.
    Jay

  78. Mandy Todd
    July 17, 2014

    I did very much miss your Facebook posts and wonder where you had gone. I’m happy to hear that you are healing and ready to share your wisdom and your struggles with the rest of us again. Welcome back.

  79. Christina
    July 17, 2014

    Welcome back!!! We all go through things that we step away but as long as God is on our side, we seem to find our way back to where we are to be at that given time. Thank you for your lovely spirit and true love for us.

  80. mattie
    July 17, 2014

    wow,wow and wow!!!!!!!!!! you just read my mail .like for real .I have been in the same place for far to long and forgot the person that G-d created “me” to be ,”just me ” not perfect ,no resemblinse of that @ all just a girl that struggles with life everyday and has a desire to help others and in by doing so ,helps “me” you just showed the world that you, Mandy Hale are “human” yep ,glad to have you back girl. I have missed you lots.and I have this saying that someone gave me long agao .G-d didnt comfort you to make you comfortable,but to comfort others.and that is exactly what you do.NONE of us are “perfect” remember Paul ? the things I want to do ,I dont… ? ring a bell?and the other one. We have ALL fallin short of G-ds glory. but the good news is ,his Mercy is NEW EVERY MORNING and his grace is SUFICIANT for me ,for you ,for us all .thank G-d and welcome back.I so look forward to seeing where G-d leads you on your journey in this wonderful thing we call LIFE.xoxoxoxox

    • Diva
      July 17, 2014

      Preach Mattie!

  81. Sarah
    July 17, 2014

    Mandy–welcome home. Thank you for so boldly sharing your experiences with all of us. I, too, have been through a period of darkness lately, including involvement in a relationship that sucked life from my days rather than adding joy to my moments. During that darkness, I closed myself off from friends and family, from the people that could see there wasn’t something right in my life but continued to be me with the words “I’m fine!” whenever they tried to share their love and support. My internal dialogue included phrases like “It doesn’t matter” or “whatever” to many ways that I was being disrespected or slighted. You and I and all your loyal readers can now work toward the light together, changing our inner dialogues and seeing our value as bold, intelligent women capable of so much more than we can even fathom.

    Blessings to you Mandy–welcome back.

  82. Christina
    July 17, 2014

    Mandy, I wish I could reach through this computer and give you a great big hug. You are so right, we are all in this together and that means we can safely just be us, and take turns being the strong one and giving advice at times, and then being the one who needs advice and needs someone to just listen. I am using your idea of getting uncomfortable in life, and it’s been challenging and eye opening and I am finding strenght in God’s love. Keep writing, keeop sharing and ask for help and understanding when you need it baby girl. XXOO

  83. Monica Figueroa
    July 17, 2014

    Mandy,

    All I have to say is you’re still incredible and definitely an inspiration!!!!!!

    Great to have you back 😀

  84. July 17, 2014

    Mandy,
    This is exactly what I needed to read this morning, so thank you. I thought I’d finally met someone who would prove there were still good guys out there, but I was wrong again. It’s nice to have a place where someone else is sharing the same struggles and is ok being real about it. Thank you much for sharing and for your honesty.

  85. Diva
    July 17, 2014

    Mandy,

    What you have experienced is “normal” for a person with a call upon their life. Yes, maybe you did forget who you were for a moment but that I was only to remind you of who you really are. Living life as a single woman is extremely difficult; however, we must remember that we have only One True Love and His name is Jesus. He is the only MAN that will love us unconditionally and will guard our hearts. I am a divorced 44 year old woman who is trying to find my way as a Christian woman. I believe God will send someone my way but was told otherwise by a spiritual advisor. I questioned God on this matter a weeks ago while getting dress one morning. Well, I am happy to report that God gave me answer before the night ended by leading to a book entitled “Lady in Waiting” by Jackie Kendall. Although the book mainly speaks to single women who have never been married it also speak to all women.
    Say yes to God’s will every morning before your feet hit the floor and I am positive He will continue to speak to your heart and in turn you will speak to ours. Do not stop…..you are on to something!

  86. Sharon
    July 17, 2014

    Hi Mandy, I understand how easy it is to be misguided through life. All of us want love in our lives but I can understand being side swiped by your own words, your human .. I have read your books and love your knowledge and insights.. I have been in a off and on relationship for 6 years and he treated me like shit and I let him and each time he did something the pain got less and I lost my own identity all for the sake of love.. He was always on the dating site, had no interest in my life, was rude and uncaring and very selfish.. I have just told him goodbye today, through my tears I read your blog.. It’s gods intentions to make us see that we are going down the wrong paths in life, the lessons we learn along the way are meant to make us stronger and wiser and teach us what mistakes not to make again.. and hopefully on the road to find where happiness and pure contentment lives… I realize I lost a lot of time and hopes and dreams waiting for Mr Wrong to realize what he had in me and but he never chose to see what he had before him.. the truest love he would ever find.. blind yes, me stupid absolutely.. but smarter… Mandy you were lucky seeing that relationship was wrong for you.. and it ended before it began.. You seen it because of the wisdom you have encountered along the way… Keep your chin up and write like theirs no tomorrow… hugz and god bless you…

  87. Heather :)
    July 17, 2014

    I have been following your tweets and blog on and off now for about a year. I have wanted to buy your new book for some time now and finally did yesterday at a local Barnes and Noble. I absolutely can’t put it down. As I read it, I want to hear more and it’s completely relatable for any female out there (single or not). Keep doing what you’re doing because you really speak to all types of women in general. Glad you’re back!!!!!! 🙂

  88. Holly
    July 17, 2014

    This post couldn’t have been more perfectly timed! I’ve personally been struggling for the last month or so with my “single woman” status, and I even downloaded “I’ve Never Been to Vegas but my Luggage has” at the weekend in an attempt to start to put things back together. Thanks Mandy!

  89. Dina
    July 17, 2014

    Thank you for sharing your vulnerabilities. The fact that you struggle with the same painful experiences and lessons as the rest of us 30 something singles, is EXACTLY why God chose you to touch so many lives. And believe me, you do by just being one of us. Thank you for all you do! We will ALL get through these trials together

  90. July 17, 2014

    I missed you Mandy. Thanks for being real with us. One thing people tell me about my blog is how grateful they are for my transparency and authenticity. I love you and your honesty. We are all broken, we all make bad choices, we all have bad relationships.. you are not alone Mandy. #SingleAt45AndStillSurviving <3

  91. Kim Rolston
    July 17, 2014

    Please don’t try to be perfect for your readers. It’s that you share the same thoughts and struggles as we do that makes us relate to you more. Keep writing – it helps. Thanks

  92. July 17, 2014

    I can’t express how happy I am that you shared this. It’s as if you’re echoing the very things I ‘ve been going through almost during the same time frame. Ministry is tough work, and when God uses us (especially women, and especially SINGLE women) in powerful ways, our self-inflicted pressure often can make us feel as if we don’t measure up to what others expect of us, culminating in a feeling sometimes of “why bother?”
    We are all fortunate to be on this journey with you because we as women need desperately to understand how our Creator adores and cherishes us. He couldn’t possibly love us more and He will never love us less. When we begin to grasp this, only then are we able to “bare all” the way that you have in this post. I pray abundant blessings on you and every woman touched by your ministry, and thank you so much for coming back 🙂

  93. Angie
    July 17, 2014

    So glad that you are back! Thank you for all you do!

  94. Elle
    July 17, 2014

    How beautifully written this is. I look forward to hearing more about everything that has happened.

  95. Terri
    July 17, 2014

    I’m so very glad you are back. I have really missed your posts as I always felt like I had a fellow sister to walk this single journey with me. Your honesty has deeply touched my heart. I think that is what we all long for. Just to be able to be our messy, wonderful, imperfect, perfect selves and be loved and celebrated right where we are. You are truly a blessing to us & I’m praying for you. God has such a special calling on your life! Hang in there girlfriend! You are not alone and I like you plan to enjoy the journey wherever it takes me!!

  96. Kathleen
    July 17, 2014

    Bravo Girl!!!!! We don’t expect you to be perfect, we expect you to be real. Come on, jump in the pool with us Single Ladies-be hurt, be vulnerable, be worried…be yourself. No judgment here.
    We love you.

  97. Angelika
    July 17, 2014

    I love you Mandy. Just remember.. The pain you’re feeling now is nothing compared to the joy that’s to come!

  98. Kate
    July 17, 2014

    Girl! None of us can fly all the time. Everyone wants to , but we have to spend time on a branch in order to recall how wonderful flying is.welcome back. Everything’s going to be fine.

  99. July 17, 2014

    Thank you for your honesty. I’m in a somewhat similar place and it IS so reassuring to know that even the best of us get a little lost sometimes. Glad you’re feeling more like yourself again!

  100. Ruby Rodriguez
    July 17, 2014

    A friend of mine shared one of your quotes with me a few months ago and it was at the point I begin my most significant relationship of my life…my relationship with God! After months of feeling lost, alone and heartbroken after a 4 year (yes, 4 year) relationship of on and off breaks, I had enough! Your quote triggered something in me and although a lot of my new found strength is because of my new found faith, I still feel compelled to thank you! I did derail a few weeks ago and let myself down my re-entering that relationship but I prayed on it and finally released my grip! I too I’m a little more broken but I have to believe that the cracks in my heart are simply another way to let God’s love in!” Thank you Mandy and welcome back!

  101. Vivian
    July 17, 2014

    I’m glad you’re back!
    I’m going through the same thing right now and I’m sure I can relate to a lot of the emotions and feelings that you are going through.

  102. July 17, 2014

    Thank you so much for everything you share with us readers. After reading your most recent book, I too have found myself in a season of change. A season of acceptance, acceptance of who I am, where I’ve been and trusting in where I’m going. For the longest time I have felt broken. After reading your book, God started working in my life about things I can’t change and accepting who I am as a person, every little broken piece. And it all started because of my reading your book. I started writing in my journal again and felt the nudge from God that I really needed to share it. So I restarted my blog back up and started sharing everything. It’s scary sharing who you are and where you’ve been. But if God still accepts us and loves us despite our flaws, then there’s nothing to be scared of. Thank you so much!

  103. Tamika
    July 17, 2014

    You were missed Mandy. Glad you are back! Thank you for your openness and honesty. God is using you in an awesome way! He allows us to go through things not necessarily for us but because he’s going to use us to reach his people. Continue to allow him to use you.

    Peace and Blessing!

  104. Wendy
    July 17, 2014

    Mandy,
    It’s sooooo good to have you back. I missed your inspirational stories. Life is filled with many ups and downs, and it is great that you have come to a place in which you realize that no one is perfect. There are times when everyone just feels lost. It is wonderful to know that you have found yourself again. It happens to the best of us and the worst of us.

  105. July 17, 2014

    Mandy,
    I noticed the absence of posts and put it down to being busy not knowing you were trying to make a relationship work. Reading this and letting us into your personal life makes you more real to me. No matter the outcome of the relationship, at least you tried to make it work. I mean you even changed your facebook status to a relationship. Some of us never do that until we are quite certain. And with or without flaws Mr. Charming is round the corner. Have faith.

    • Amanda
      July 17, 2014

      Your human ! With obstacles come lessons and no one is perfect . Lifein itself is about learning .I just read one of your books and I love it . You are such an encouragement and glad that You are back !!

  106. Nomhle
    July 17, 2014

    Welcome back Mandy,thank you for your honesty,here’s to our journey together

  107. Danielle
    July 17, 2014

    Mandy

    Hold your head high and know God is walking next to you. You are supported and appreciated for sharing your experience. Thank you for giving single women your strength through words. Just know we are here supporting you and praying for you.

  108. July 17, 2014

    Your human ! With obstacles come lessons and no one is perfect . Lifein itself is about learning .I just read one of your books and I love it . You are such an encouragement and glad that “You” are back !!

  109. July 17, 2014

    MANDY!! I was wondering what happened to you!! I’ve missed you!! And I can also say, I FEEL YOU!! Relational drama, distractions, depressions, and flat-out demonic attacks are not joke, none at all. I totally get it. BUT I don’t think you have any reason to apologize. Life happens, we get it. I’m just happy you’re back. 🙂 xx

  110. Sarah
    July 17, 2014

    So glad you are back. We missed you. Hope you dont go MIA on us in the future. I was really wondering what happened. All of us single, 30 something women are in this together. Please don’t forget that. We all need each other for encouragement and the building up of each other. Your wisdom, ups and downs, and experiences are important to us all whether it be positive, negative, the good, the bad, and the ugly. We are sisters in Christ who will stick closer to you than a brother. Welcome back sister!

  111. July 17, 2014

    I have recently started falling you on Twitter and your website here, and I know exactly what you are going through, at least to an extent. Each situation is different, but I can personally vouch for the fact that sometimes taking time away to spend with just us and God is what is needed in order to let Him heal our hearts. I just came out of a year long relationship and was even engaged to the guy when it became clear to me that he is not who I thought he was. My heart was shattered, and in many ways I am still grieving the heartache and quite honestly, not having the wedding I always wanted. I, luckily, was able to come to Central America where my parents are missionaries and take some time to heal and reflect and grieve. I have been encouraged and inspired by your tweets and this post, knowing that things do and can get better, and believing God had a bigger plan for me than I had for myself. So thank you for being transparent, and for hanging in there, staying strong, because I can say for certain: it takes courage and strength to let go of something you’ve dreamed about since you were little. And for me, it is just nice to know I am not the only single gal out there almost in her 30s! So again, thank you and I will remember you in my prayers!

  112. Barbara
    July 17, 2014

    We are all the same journey as you are, one of being vulnerable and hopeful to love and life. Amen for you to take the next step of self discovery in a new relationship. It takes a lot courage.
    Keep writing and inspiring . You are gifted young women who continues to make a difference !

  113. seboladi- South africa
    July 17, 2014

    Hey Mandy
    Thanks so much for being back– you have no idea how much you inspire me on a day to day basis. Missed you soo much
    And yeah we in this struggle together, and being “the single woman” doesn’t mean we don’t want to find love, nd meet people,it just means we strong enough to walk away if the rship is failing us, and crying over it and being confused about how we feel or handle it makes us human,makes us woman-
    So looking forward to popping by your blog more often, and your suspcions are right, we also are where you are, similar struggles and as 20something year old young lady,there so much for me to learn from the more matured experienced ladies

  114. Stacie
    July 18, 2014

    Authenticity takes courage!~ Transparency takes courage! I applaud your bravery. People are far more effective when they are honest, and real. Not only with others, but with themselves! BE who you ARE, not who you think people want or expect you to be. God bless you, heal your spirit, and renew you to wholeness once more!

  115. loyce
    July 18, 2014

    Since I stumbled on your website and blog a few months ago..(Someone would wonder where have I been) I have been tempted to reply to certain posts, but being shy n private I have simply smiled and waited for the next post. Today, I want to say soo much am not sure where to begin,,,but now that the courage to write is flowing, I will let the fingers do the typing. a) You are brave, brave because you have let the world know that your normal and you too have stuff to deal with. Sometimes people who look up to us, imagine we are superwomen, with no emotions, fully in control of everything, n that sometimes makes us shy from sharing our down moments coz no one will understand us or believe that we too can have stuff. Other times we shy off becoz like u said, we feel if we cannot do that which we have been asking them to do, then we have failed. we have lost credibility… and so i applaud u n say you are a brave woman Mandy; n you are not alone. b) I have been wanting to find a “ministry” that will give me a platform to share my life with young women and encourage them…N i have questioned myself as to whether there is anything amazing or inspiring to share, could I perhaps be thinking too highly of myself? yet there is this thing in me that wants to go out there n tell young women my story,,,,n today reading your post,,,,I suddenly have this bulb inspiring moment of setting up a blog. I even have a stick note on my desk with four key thematic areas that I will be sharing …I honestly don’t know if this sudden passionate idea will die the moment I send this post, n whether I will still have it tomorrow,,,,but right now,, you have inspired me and I want to be of service to others just like you,,,in this ministry of sharing…..

  116. piamazzzing
    July 18, 2014

    Looking forward for more blogs/posts from u! U are an inspiration to all women!

  117. Veronica
    July 18, 2014

    The important thing is that you are back now. I follow you from Rome, Italy and you are helping me a lot. You don’t know how much your words help. You are really important to me in this difficult period of my life. Thanks a lot.

  118. Brandi
    July 18, 2014

    You’re right…we did miss you something awful, but to write about anything you have to live. Sometime that living requires you to step back, regroup & gather your thoughts before you move on to what God has planned for you. I don’t think anyone expects perfection, just be your fabulous, funny & honest self . Besides,perfect people will have absolutely NO cool stories to tell in the old folks home.

  119. Tina Kaur
    July 18, 2014

    You are a great inspiration to all of us Mandy, you show us that you can get through really difficult times, and that its okay to feel even the bad emotions for a little while , your writing is so down to earth and I always turn to your quotes and what you have written when I feel I am struggling, which seems like everyday at the moment. I’m a 30 something single woman also who feels she has lost her place in the world and reading about your experiences and how you get through things is really inspiring, Thankyou so much for sharing your experiences and giving us all hope in our daily lives.

  120. heather
    July 18, 2014

    Mandy,
    hi it’s nice to know that someone else is going through what all these single girls are going through. You seem very real very honest and I’d love that! Thank you for your words of wisdom and has help me alot to know that I’m not going through this alone thank you once again keep posting please.I too am recently single so I am learning to heal I know it’s a slow process but I’m taking it a day at a time so thank you your post and your words are helping me along.
    -Heather

  121. Julie
    July 18, 2014

    Thank u for your vulnerability in this blog post. I understand your pain of always trying to play the part of being perfect and having it together…so often I find myself believing I have to be “perfect” in order to be useful in this life!!! it is all a lie from the devil and we have to remember what God and the Bible says!!!! u are great no matter what!!!

  122. Renee
    July 19, 2014

    Hi Honey! Love your honesty n humbleness! Life is life n God gives us free will n He sees where we are headed n allows us to go so that we learn (the hard way : ) ) instead of just trusting Him in the first place! I have definately been there w/everything you said n smile because remembering the lessons I have learned, some soo difficult I didnt think I could get up again, but there was Jesus waiting n standing right by me telling me Im here! Life is life n we live in this world, but we are not of this world! We belong to God n Jesus n in the end THAT is what I hold on to! As my Pastor says, “keep rocking” n look up to the One who wants the very best for all HIS daughters! Stay humble n true to who God made you to be! Your allowed to b wrong n mess up… : ) Its life! Look up, trust n have faith! I dont know you, but very proud of you! Have an amazing day! : ) Renee

  123. samri
    July 19, 2014

    You were missed Mandy,but i found you an excuse,and thought it was because of your new book launching.
    Its my first time to comment on your blogs,not because I dont want to,but because you always say it all, not adiving,nope, but as if expressing how things are. This time I want to tell you not to blame yourself in anyway,we are all humanbeings,and we go through ups and downs, and if not for the support of our loved ones we cant make it through.
    Am not giving advice niether,but I just wanted to show you you are not alone and will never be. You have my respect, love and support, and am sure hundreds and maybe thousands of your fans from around the world will share this with me.By the way,am not American and not in the US.
    Take your time to recover and we will always be at your back and by your side.
    much love and respect.
    Always A Single Lady fan.

  124. Danielle
    July 19, 2014

    Thank you for this blog!! I am the kind of person that keeps things in and is very secretive when it comes to my personal relationships. But lately I have been single and getting to know myself and what I know I deserve in a person. I am glad that you blogged about this…it takes courage!! Thank you!

  125. mstibane
    July 19, 2014

    welcome back mandy and thank you for being who you are..your truly a blessing to all of US .May God continue to bless and keep you!

  126. Caralba Charles
    July 19, 2014

    God bless your very soul. You are such an inspiration to women everywhere. Be real, be bold and most importantly be authentically YOU. I love you Mandy Hale! Thank God for you.

  127. sheila
    July 20, 2014

    I so love everything about your blogs…you inspire me…so much love all the way from the philippines!

  128. Zeshly
    July 20, 2014

    Welcome back Mandy, it wasn’t the same without you. We miSsed you.

  129. Melanie
    July 20, 2014

    I am glad you are back. Your words are helpful because of your experiences, good or bad. You are doing a good thing, so please keep it going.

  130. Danielle Rogers
    July 20, 2014

    I missed you!!!! Welcome back and thanks AGAIN for being so transparent!!!

    I love you MUCH!!!!

  131. Suzanne
    July 23, 2014

    Welcome back Mandy! Your absence was most definitely noticed on my end! Really missed your insightful and encouraging tweets! (They come to my phone as text notifications.) I’m happy for you that you were able to take the break you needed! But I’m at least as equally happy that you’re back – your timing couldn’t be better… I’m struggling so much with needing to let go of a relationship “dream” and move on right now… I’ve been reading and rereading your tweets from last two days… They’re the only thing helping me get through this… Can’t say thank you enough… I am so grateful for you… 🙂

  132. Jane
    July 24, 2014

    Mandy, it feels so great to finally see a blog from you again. I will never be able to thank you enough… You are an amazing inspiration! You have not been alone in your recent struggles, because I have been right there with you, so thank you for reaching back out when I (and I’m sure many others) needed you the most! I look forward to reading… 🙂

  133. July 24, 2014

    Hi Mandy, we have missed your voice of wisdom, inspiration, and encouragement on here. And although a few things in life may have thrown you a little off track and you had to take a much needed break it’s refreshing for all of us to see your transparency. No one expects you to be perfect, if you were we would never be able to relate to you. And the fact that you can be real with what you are going through just inspires me even more. I know God has used you incredibly to speak into the lives of women and I believe He will always continue to do so, no matter what season, what stage, or what circumstance you find yourself in. Please never stop writing and always remember that you are in our prayers and you have millions of girls and women around the world that you bless with your life. Thank you for being you!

  134. Hope
    July 24, 2014

    Mandy
    I have read all of your books and am always looking to you for positive feedback for moving forward. I have been single since the beginning of June. I have received such solace from your writing. I am much older than most of your dedicated followers.(I am 55) but please know how important your message is to everyone. Everytime I start to think about calling my ex or reconnecting your twitter speaks right to me. THANK YOU!!!

  135. nzuki
    July 25, 2014

    missed u too..it is well, God has promised to work it all for your good..you are real..welcome back ..we long to hear from you again and again

  136. Iris
    July 25, 2014

    Mandy,
    Thank you for your wisdom and most importantly your honesty. We’ve all been where you were and had to find ourselves, yet once again.

    While single and in my 40’s I’ve have contentment that most people don’t understand. You have helped this process and I can’t thank you enough.

    Your restoration with exude many great things in the future and I look forward to it.

  137. Iris
    July 25, 2014

    Mandy,
    Thank you for your wisdom and most importantly your honesty. We’ve all been where you were and had to find ourselves, yet once again.

    While single and in my 40’s I have contentment that most people don’t understand. You have helped this process and I can’t thank you enough.

    Your restoration with exude many great things in the future and I look forward to it.

  138. LaLa
    July 25, 2014

    Wow you just blessed me with this! I love you, thank you for being so transparent! This was confirmation for me that, I’m not the only woman that makes mistakes, we all do and we all get back up again! Thank you once again!!

  139. Jessica
    July 25, 2014

    Mandy that touched my heart I know the feeling of feeling to struggle things alone I have been single for 3 years nearly and it isn’t always easy to always remain strong and confident and I have lost my way many times and even wondered if I would ever feel me without the we.. still taking time getting used to the me part… but everything takes time and time is what we all need to heal and grow. x

    • Bahia
      October 29, 2014

      I like the expression .. feeling Me without the We .. this is what i was looking for to express how i feel ..

  140. Liz
    July 25, 2014

    Missed you, Mandy. Figured boy trouble was involved. At least, that’s usually my reason for drawing away from friends for awhile. It has never been worth it, mostly because the men haven’t been worth it; but I’d like to believe that the right man would want to be a part of my “singledom” anyway – as in, admire and want to join the fun, full life I lead. The best man or woman for each of us is one who adds to our present happiness. For you, Mandy, the right man will be one who inspires you. Be suspicious of any man who turns your fingers away from that keyboard! I have read your blog for a couple of years and have seen your writing improve. Even this last blog showed a change in style – a new clarity of thought and turn of phrase – and it would be a shame if you ever stopped. Best Wishes, Liz 🙂

  141. Chantal
    July 26, 2014

    Just thankyou…

  142. Latice
    July 26, 2014

    Thanks for sharing your struggle Mandy. I’m in a very similar position but I feel like I let my daughters down. I’m searching for a way to forgive myself so I cn begin moving forward.

    This is my first time reading your blog but I follow you on Twitter and your words have been a source of motivation. Keep living, learning and sharing. Welcome back.

  143. Jazel Jabido
    July 27, 2014

    am really glad you’re back, mandy!.. your life is a blessing. ♥

  144. Karley
    July 28, 2014

    Glad that you’re back, Mandy! Your book, “The Single Woman”, has become my source of inspiration and I want to thank you for touching my life profoundly. I am turning 25 and I’m still single up to now, but I decided to stop worrying about my status and start living and enjoying life as much as I can. There are times I still find it difficult, but I think real happiness is a constant work in progress. Just as how life goes on. As to what you’re going through right now, I understand your struggle and it’s pretty normal because after all you’re human just like any of us. We get hurt, we commit mistakes, and sometimes we tend to forget or ignore to do what is right because it feels much better to follow our heart. But it’s okay. You’re still the Mandy that I admire. Please never stop writing. You are a channel of blessing to us. Thanks to you.

  145. Lorri
    July 28, 2014

    Welcome back and YES you have been missed. This is a struggle…I understand but the one thing I’m learning is to be easy with myself. I pray for peace for you! Again welcome back hun!!!

  146. Ngoni
    July 29, 2014

    Glad to see you back Mandy! You were missed. As a forty-something single woman, I’ve been where you have been, so no explanation on my end is needed. I know the brokenness, the confusion, being misunderstood by others, trying to find meaning and purpose. When I last wrote to you about becoming a missionary (I plan to go on a medical missions trip to Guatemala in December), a guy who I had a friendship with contacted me after a two-year period of no contact. We are e-mailing each other now. I’ve told him before that I wasn’t planning on getting married, a part of me desired it, but that I wasn’t looking for it. He is a really great guy nonetheless, and I believe in him and know he is dedicated to God. He has expressed that he loves and cares for me (and this after he’s seen me at my absolute worst!). I guess my point is that there is someone who is admiring you from afar. You may not even realize it or he will be a person furthest from your mind. You are loved! I think that is what as single women we want to know, that we are not worthless. I bought myself a promise ring and I wear it every day as a mental reminder that I am loved first by Jesus. 1 John 4:19 KJV. Finding my worth in God is what I am working on now. I hope what I said will help you in your journey as well.

  147. ciyona
    July 29, 2014

    you inspire me 🙂 missed you too mandy. you are just like every girl out there.

  148. Jodi
    July 29, 2014

    Being a 51 yr old single woman there is one thing I have learned, never apologize for taking time for yourself. Sometimes “alone” time is much needed. Unlike some of your followers, I am not even interested in finding “the one for me” and have decided to not even look, I have reverted to my “bubble” and spend time with my friends and family, that alone if enough love for me. As you get older you realize that you do not have to have a man in your life to be happy, be happy with yourself and the ones that do love you.

  149. LoLo
    July 29, 2014

    Thank you for being so real. I really felt and could relate to most of what you wrote. Thank you for being so open.

  150. Jaime
    July 30, 2014

    What a great come back post Mandy and How inspiring and real! It amazes me how many other people are going through the same thing you think you are going through alone. You look around and you think you’re crazy because clearly no one else is having these same problems, but then you come here and see all these other amazing women going through the same thing and your world feels less lonely. Mandy, it is ok to stumble and have dark moments as long as you find your way back to the light. Keep being the amazing women you are and when you feel weak remember we have your back!

  151. Lillie Washington
    July 30, 2014

    Powerful! #sendinlovehugsnkisses

  152. Cindy Lim
    July 31, 2014

    I feel like God has spoken to me through you! I just recently made a decision like you, to end a so-called relationship, which I didn’t want to but deep down know that I must for my own good. Many a times I regretted my action and wished I hadn’t end it. I was struggling, crying and questioning God, why me? Why keep putting the wrong men in my life knowing it will not work out? Reading your post made me realised I’m not all alone. I can so relate to what you’re going thru and I’m sure many out there too. I hope you will feel better soon and I look forward to reading your blogs. Welcome back!

  153. Melissa
    July 31, 2014

    Mandy, I loved this post. Not only because it was beautifully heartfelt but beacuse it makes me feel even more normal. I think it’s natural to retreat sometimes, especially when we feel disappointed in ourselves. The strength you have to overcome your disappointments & share your struggles with all of us is an incredibly admirable trait. I’ve been following your blog since I too ended a bad relationship in 2011 & you constantly inspire me & even more than that you constantly make me feel more confident in being a perfectly flawed woman who is relentlessly working to make herself a better person every day. Your struggles not only make you stronger, but they also make all of us stronger. THANK YOU for being so vulnerable & sharing your stories with us. You are a divine light & Gods plan for you is JUST beginning, keep on shining!

  154. Jocelyn
    July 31, 2014

    Oh thank you so much for you honesty it’s so wonderful to hear that you are back. We all have falling short but the wonderful thing about GODS GRACE is that he gives is a chance to forgive our self. I am also in a quite season in my life, had a “relationship ” that was just that words it’s so nice to hear that we are all in this together. Thank you thank you thank you for just being YOU !!!

  155. Karrie
    July 31, 2014

    I’m happy you’re back from your hiatus. I am new to your blog so I can’t say I missed you but am happy about the return! I read an exert from your book on the FB page the Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass and it kind of described me to a “T”. I figured it was worth a read, which I will be doing as soon as my copy arrives 🙂
    None of us are perfect and you don’t have to be perfect to your readers. We are all a little broken, a little awkward, a little guarded, sometimes too independent and confident, but we are who we are and if people can handle it they will join us in our journey. If not, they aren’t meant to be there!
    Welcome back….hiatuses are sometimes necessary, but don’t ever feel like you failed. We are all perfectly imperfect.

  156. Ricki
    July 31, 2014

    Im telling you, its like you go through the exact same emotions i go through. I ve been praying for you since we talked last on email, when I was hoping to get yall to come to missisippi on the tour ( it didnt work out) but i always have felt led in praying for you, just because i indentify with you in your single walk and how difficult it can be at times . Thanks for being real, its what reaches people the most. I think the single journey is the most precious to God and I have no doubt he sees our frustrations and has amazing plans for all us single ladies…glad we can all stick together…much love Mandi! Keep doing what you do!

  157. Ashley
    July 31, 2014

    Kudos Mandy! I have also recently decided to take myself out of an unhealthy relationship and am opening myself up to God and all of His graces more and more each day. I know what it is like to remove yourself from the very things/people you love because you are embarassed. The great news is, it wasn’t God’s love. His love abounds to the point where we can only be a reflection of him, loving, caring, nurturing, enduring. I have declared that I am no longer going to ignore everything in me telling me “no”. I am going to listen, and be still. And when God speaks, I will move. Truth be told, if you don’t listen God will sure set some bombs off to make you. 🙂 I am so encouraged to hear your story, to hear how you were knocked down but you have decided to get back up again. I have followed your journey, I feel like I was one of the first to follow you on twitter (ironically at that time I was single), and since your very first posts I knew you had something special inside you. I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for being there for all of us “single women”, married or not. I want to encourage you to be blessed and to follow your heart and keep letting love lead you. We are all a work in progress.

  158. Shannon
    August 1, 2014

    Thank you for being so raw and vulnerable with your feelings. I read this post in tears as I too have been placed in my “becoming” stage. I always thought that once I made the decision to leave an unhealthy situation than my healing would lie in my ability to walk away. What I am actually finding out that my road to healthy and happy isn’t a straight one. It’s like climbing a mountain that has peaks, valleys and level terrain. Some days are like the level terrain where I finally feel like myself and I can rest in my faith and hope and some days have valleys where I fall back into self-doubt, discouragement and anger with God. I also have those days where I must climb higher than I have before. Those are the days where my faith is challenged but yet I still have my eyes on the top of the mountain. It is my hope and faith that once I finally reach the top I will be able to look over my journey and appreciate and accept that it was all necessary to get me to the point that God has ordained for my life. It is my prayer that each one of you reading this will be blessed with the courage, faith and peace to sustain you on your journey.

  159. japheth bringas
    August 1, 2014

    Mandy,
    I have been following you for months and never had the guts to write a post. Because 1. I felt ashamed to say that someone on twitter that I have no relation to could understand me. And 2. Because I normally don’t post to strangers lol. The truth is. We all need someone that we don’t know in life to inspire us. And it just made me realize the obvious…that there are woman out there going through the same thing such as yourself. Believe it or not many people need this. To be heard from social medias. It’s so inspiring what you do. Especially for other you have no clue about. As imperfect and flawed you may be you are an inspiration. Thank you because through my walk of the single life it was made easier to understand and feel ok with your help. I love reading your posts. I hope to meet the amazing woman that you are…one day. 🙂

  160. August 1, 2014

    Welcome back Mandy. You were dearly missed! What you were going through is part of what we go through in life and that’s what makes you human. You are a brave woman and I always look forward to reading your blog posts. Thank you for inspiring us

  161. August 2, 2014

    I just finished Never Been to Vegas and I just want to thank you for your honesty and authenticity. We are all so imperfect and our journeys are never ending. I read books and blogs and twitters and it sometimes feels lonely. People make it seem like they have it all together, it just took a few bumps in the road. But that’s not how life is. We are continually changing and growing. There are bumps along the way (or huge crashes if we are honest) but God uses those to teach us and bring us closer to him. Your book encouraged me. I’ve never considered myself a dreamer but maybe that’s why I am where I am. I have dreams that still need to be discovered and explored. Thank your for your love and support. For being an inspiration. And more than anything thank you for being a Godly friend and role model. Keep writing, keep being honest. It is making an impact.

  162. Ashleigh Teasley
    August 3, 2014

    Hey Mandy, I’m glad you are back. Thank you for pouring your heart out. A lot of what you said freed me. God Bless You: )

  163. Olivia
    August 3, 2014

    Thank you! This is my first time in your blog an I have been reading for the past half hour thinking okay God I hear you! So thank you for your authenticity an being so honest!

  164. Kerrie Schlenker
    August 4, 2014

    My summer reading was all three of your books this summer, I cant tell you how they encouraged me. I just divorced from a 30 year marriage 1 year ago…to say the least, I have been, floundering. I keep telling people, “I don’t know how to behave.” And that is the best way I can describe it. You mentioned your “hiatus”, don’t worry about that. I tend to do that as well. Just remember to always come back, and sometimes, no , most the time, that is the hard part for me. To be single in a huge family like mine, (9 brothers and sisters, all happily married) is a brutal gig sometimes. So I did what you said. I took me out for a date one day. No schedules, no , “I have to be back at this time”, nothing. I did what I wanted, even went to a coffee shop by myself, which was HUGE for me. I intend to do the balloon release thing as well ;). Just wanted to thank you and encourage you to take care of yourself.

  165. Nichole Henandez
    August 8, 2014

    Hi Mandy, I loved reading this piece. And yes I myself believe we all have about the same struggles. I always tell my friends… “Keep On Trucking” as I hope you do as well. Thank you for your inspiration to all of us Single Women.

  166. August 8, 2014

    God I love you lol

  167. Susan
    August 8, 2014

    Hi Mandy! First time on your blog after finishing both your books. Just want to say thank u for being so real. Even tho I’m old enough to be your mom, I still fee like I’ve learned a lot from u. God has truly blessed u and I thank u for sharing such personal issues to help single women like me!

  168. Sisi
    August 9, 2014

    Welcome back Mandy! Nobody is perfect. I feel you to the core, I totally understand that this journey can be so tough, and at times I just want it all to be over. But we serve a wonderful God. He has the best. I recently heard Joel Osteen say that ‘your future is brighter than your past, your best days are ahead of you.’

  169. Amanda
    August 14, 2014

    Mandy,

    So awesome that you could come back to your readers! I look forward to hearing from! But honestly, You;ve got to stop being sooo incredibly hard on yourself! It’s just not fair to you! You’re an amzing person who has so much to share and you cannot afford to be critical about yourself. its not healthy. get back up girl! all in all the only person you’ve got is you and God. Make peace with yourself. forgive your mistakes. you havent let us down. we aren’t here to judge we are here to be a community of single womanness! Let us be here for you! Strive on and know you were made perfectly. we support and cheer you on. we were made in the image of God and we need to stay focused on our own goodness everday. make time to remember how wonderful you are. and it is TRUE> Believe it. Seek the goodness and Ye shall find it..Always.

    -Amanda

  170. wandai
    August 16, 2014

    Mandy…..words can fail to expres how much i understand you, and how vulnerable,real and beautiful you are. I feel your every step. And i truly believe that you are brave and as you have said a force to reckon with. The singlehood journeyis a time of great courage for me, I too have experienced the darkest of moments, They can be really painful at times, and times i have barely made bieng mostly single over the last 6 years.you can have the worst thoughts about yourself …and im learning to be gentle with mself, as i have been the worst critic to mself.

  171. Oma
    August 17, 2014

    @ Mandy, I love, love your posts. Yes we have really missed you. I like your posts cos you’re real, n open. It takes a lot of courage to do that. This post really struck a cord within me…You’re truly an inspiration. Thank you for letting us in into your life…I can identify with your post.
    Truth is, we all need each other. I pray the good Lord gives you peace and serenity concerning every challenge. And don’t worry God’s gonna give you that special man that will love& treasure you like Christ loved the church. God bless. X

  172. Nikkyvet
    August 18, 2014

    I miss you mandy..I understand u well cos av been going through some things recently that made me feel God no longer has me in mind.. I am encouraged by those words of yours, and I hope to read more.. Thank God for you. Love you loads..

  173. August 19, 2014

    Hi Mandy – I love connecting people and I am going to keep my eyes open for someone to introduce to you to go out for coffee, correspondence or something like that. I looked through my list of friends and nobody really comes up, but I will be on the look out.

    Blessings,

    Emily (Chicago)

  174. Candy
    August 22, 2014

    Hi Mandy, I truly missed your blogs. Your words help me, comfort me and strenthens me.I believe you’re doing the same for the ladies here. We all have this kind of moment, it takes a lot of courage to come out and admit that you have forgotten what you have already learned. Believe me, it happens to me and to all of us. Let us seek guidance that we might always see His light despite of the darkness that surrounds us.

  175. August 22, 2014

    Mandy,
    Thank you. I have been following you over the last year and a half. I’ve been inspired and shared your inspiration in my life, as well. In this time I have been watching your emergence, I have been making my own. I, also, went through similar hurts and realizations recently. Today, I found exactly what I needed in this blog. I’m picking up pieces, having come back to what I know. Rebuilding, and accepting that I was refined. Thank you for your courage to be transparent and vulnerable !

  176. Lindsey
    August 22, 2014

    I missed your posts a lot! But I also completely understand as I was going through something similar recently. A 2 month relationship that failed big time and I got hurt. I took that hurt and used it to justify my behavior. I felt like a failure too. I was so hard on myself and disappointed in life. I hadn’t been to church in months and after a particularly shameful night I made my way back. Funny how darkness can bring us back to the light.

  177. Sarah
    August 27, 2014

    I’ve had the hardest time lately trying to find myself & where I want to be as well as getting my heart absolutely shattered! There has been nights were i’ve cried myself to sleep & just thought about how I am failing myself … But reading your blogs inspire me & help me! Thank you so so much for your blogs posts honesty everything! It has helped me get back on track xox

  178. Sandy
    August 27, 2014

    Mandy,

    You are amazing. You and I are in the same boat– I’m 35-years-old and still waiting for my prince. I went through an awful breakup just before New Years Eve last year and spent most of this year grieving and healing from the painful things that were said and done. This is a man that wanted to marry me, claimed he loved me, said I was the love of his life, and swore he would take care of me forever. However, he is not a Christian and he resented the fact that I placed my relationship with Jesus first in my life. I have no regrets today that we are not together anymore, but it’s been a tough year.

    I have to tell you, though, I read both of your books– ‘The Single Woman’ & ‘I’ve Never Been to Vegas but my luggage has’–last month and I felt so empowered as a single lady after reading them. You helped inspire me to hold my head up high and live my best life.

    I love that you are ‘real’ and your journey is so relatable. God bless you– you are amazing!

    All the best from Vancouver Island, British Columbia (Canada)– Sandy.

  179. ToniAnn
    August 27, 2014

    Mandy I just randomly came across your blog and FB page and bought both of your books and finished reading your first book all since last Friday and its only Wednesday. You have touched me in ways that I am so grateful for. I am going to be 33 in a few weeks and I just broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months who I met on match.com. It was rather simple to have met him so quickly after only being online for 24 hours and I totally thought this is it, it has finally happened for me and here I am 6 months later, single and a few hours back online to start my journey again. I have never embraced being single and although I have a pretty awesome life that Ive created for myself I just always felt like that special person is all I need to make my life perfect. But since Ive been following you for the past few days you have helped me think about my Single Girl Life in a completely different way and I have recommended your book to two of my girlfriends, one who has been single for a few years now and one who recently got broken up with by her BF of 2 years. The part of your book that touched me the most was the Single Girl Prayer. I have to admit I balled my eyes out, but not in a bad way, in a very refreshing and almost surreal way. So I am looking forward to looking to you for strength and I want to commend you on your bravery of admitting that you fell off the face of FB and social media because you felt like you failed and found yourself in a very dark place. I too was lying to my FB community about how happy my Ex and I were by posting every dinner, concert, Sox Game and even Lollapalooza date day that we went on and posting pics of us constantly, not to mention the flowers he sent me at work for our 6 month anniversary that I asked for, but what I didnt admit was that there was no card with my flowers and they actually made me cry and realize that I was living a lie, so I did admit to him that I wasnt happy and we broke up 4 days later and I did come clean to my FB community that I was single, but I struggled if I wanted to even do that because of the idea that I had instilled in their minds about how perfect my life and relationship was. So this time around Im hoping to get it right and just enjoy the journey! Thank you for listening and taking a stand for us single women! 🙂

  180. Ren
    September 7, 2014

    You’re not supposed to be perfect. You said you’re not a self help guru, but really you are because you openly share your story… a real story. I’m a counselor, I have a master’s degree and it took me 7 years to take my own advice to others; 7 years to leave an abusive man who only cared about himself, 7 years to stop making excuses so please don’t get down on yourself because you aren’t the perfect single woman… I don’t believe there is one. I’ll be 33 in less than 2 months and I’m still trying to navigate this newfound freedom and aloneness. A friend told me about your blog and I’m impressed. I laughed at so much on this site because it reminded me so much of me and made me feel as though I’m not the only one. So keep on sharing and navigating free of judgment and remember it’s your story to share only if you want to. Thanks 🙂

  181. September 17, 2014

    Thought maybe I should write something that has to do with lots cause I’ll write down alittle of a lot here and there, then I thought of your writing, then out out if nowhere your name came to mind, without never even owning any of your books or previously being on here before, just simply from seeing your quotes around.. They’re reaching everywhere, you are, your stuff is so relatable and even more so, so helpful and inspiring. And anyway then I read this one and it helped, it helped a lot, what I’m going through what we all go through, and not just in relationships but in everything, you can be considered like a modern day bob Marley type in just that way that you relate and are so helpful, and I mean come on your touching peoples life’s everywhere, and anyway just wanted to say thank you, for this post, for many of your quotes, and just for sharing, you’ve helped so many probably without knowing so. And in the process inspiring others to get their writing out there to, thank you again.

  182. September 23, 2014

    Hi Mandy,

    I just found you a couple of weeks ago on Instagram and now I am on your blog. What a beautiful first post to read….. Your transparency and vulnerability make me fall in love with you………. I am just being seduced:))
    Can’t wait to read your books!!!
    Thank you, what a great example that at a time of our struggles we must reach out and never go it alone…. but that’s what we as women do. We want to share with the whole world when we are happy and we don’t want the same world to know when we are sad. We do it alone.. always alone….
    So happy you found the courage to share it with your community and be sure you will be held whole heartedly!!!!
    XOXO Anya

  183. Mz K
    October 5, 2014

    WELCOME BACK . No, I mean WELCOME BACK!!!!!!!
    I took a hiatus from reading when I saw that you weren’t really posting on this site as much. I am grateful that you have decided to bless us with your words of wisdom, love , encouragement and strength. I believe you will have so much more to offer as we have to give because of you being so transparent. Welcome back Mandy. God bless.

  184. Silvia
    October 8, 2014

    Hi Mandy! Today is the first time I read your blog, but I feel much empathy with you. I too am a single woman and I tried to be the perfect girl, the perfect friend, the perfect daughter for so long: then I realized that this woman doesn’t exist!!! We are beautiful as we are, because we are all special and all original…there is no one like me, I’m unique. And this is the real wonderful thing.

  185. LeyLey
    October 10, 2014

    “Out of our vulnerabilities comes our strength” xoxoxoxo

  186. Bahia
    October 29, 2014

    Your post reminds me of the Falcon who – every period of time – retreats in the mountains, drops all his old feather, breaks all his teeth and stays there until it all grows back and he is striking back, stronger than ever.

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