Dash of Sass: Stop Justifying Bad Behavior
How often do we justify things and people and behaviors in our lives that diminish us? I am passionate about this topic because I did it for 8 years: Justified over and over and over again the behavior of someone who claimed to love me but wasn’t acting loving toward me. I’d venture a guess that the #1 thing we justify is people’s actions so as to keep them in our life even though their expiration date in our life has long passed. If you blew out the dusty corners of your heart and stopped justifying today…what and who might be driven away by the light of reality? DO IT. Don’t waste one more moment on someone who is claiming a position of friendship or love in your life but is really holding a position of hurt and rejection and neglect and disappointment. You don’t need that. You think you do because you fear nothing better will come along, but that is a lie. Being alone is better than halfhearted, lukewarm or undecided! And there are people on the fringes of your life and people who you have yet to meet who can’t wait to show up for you as soon as you clear space and make room for them to!
It’s spring. A new season. A time for change. No more justifying for anyone for any reason. You don’t need people in your life who don’t need or want you! It will be scary to release them, but then it will be a freedom like nothing you’ve ever known. When you remove the weight of constantly justifying bad behavior from your shoulders, you might just fly higher and smile bigger and dance wilder than you ever have before. That’s what happens when pain is removed from your life. You soar. You grow. You heal. And you remember that true friendship and love doesn’t have to be justified because it simply IS. Boldly. Without room for doubt or questions.